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  • Hi Dan. This has been happening to me all my life, it's normal for an AS person as I'm sure you know.

    Another thing that I'm noting is the number of people, me included, who think it gets worse as we age. That's certainly how it feels to me, and I get maddeningly frustrated by it. Once one thing gets to me, I start to think of all the other 'wrongs' in my world and suddenly it all becomes overwhelming - I think of it as a tangle of wool in my head with string after string of negative stuff all intertwining and every brain cell firing off at once, and no matter how much I try to get it to shut up, the noise it all makes just gets louder and louder.

    Once I'm supersensitised by all of this, it takes one, tiny thing to set it all off, like it puts the fuse into the bomb and fires it. I could give numerous examples, I'm sure most of us can, so for instance, I've gone over the edge before because someone left a bit of food on the underside of a plate after washing up. Shortly afterwards, I needed new plates.

    I'm sorry, I can't offer any strategies to deal with it. I've tried telling people that what they're doing is giving me major problems, but I don't get listened to and after a while I just stop trying. If anyone objects to me having a meltdown, they'll eventually get a full, scathing description of what their contribution has been, and I won't be kind or diplomatic.

    The only thing that ever worked any kind of effect for me has been to avoid people and switch things off, telly, phone, computer etc, anything to reduce the number and type of inputs I'm getting. Athough there are things that I do that are just for me, I avoid those too as I know what will happen if something goes wrong with them whilst I'm feeling like that.

    I'm sorry Dan, I wish I could say something that hits the spot for you, but all I can offer you is understanding. If you're in that particular place where the crap just keeps piling up, you won't believe me or anyone because 'no-one understands'. The worst is that you feel isolated, you have to go through it alone, but you are not alone because we all know what's happening for you right now. It will pass, you'll get back in control, please try and hold onto that thought.

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  • Hi Dan. This has been happening to me all my life, it's normal for an AS person as I'm sure you know.

    Another thing that I'm noting is the number of people, me included, who think it gets worse as we age. That's certainly how it feels to me, and I get maddeningly frustrated by it. Once one thing gets to me, I start to think of all the other 'wrongs' in my world and suddenly it all becomes overwhelming - I think of it as a tangle of wool in my head with string after string of negative stuff all intertwining and every brain cell firing off at once, and no matter how much I try to get it to shut up, the noise it all makes just gets louder and louder.

    Once I'm supersensitised by all of this, it takes one, tiny thing to set it all off, like it puts the fuse into the bomb and fires it. I could give numerous examples, I'm sure most of us can, so for instance, I've gone over the edge before because someone left a bit of food on the underside of a plate after washing up. Shortly afterwards, I needed new plates.

    I'm sorry, I can't offer any strategies to deal with it. I've tried telling people that what they're doing is giving me major problems, but I don't get listened to and after a while I just stop trying. If anyone objects to me having a meltdown, they'll eventually get a full, scathing description of what their contribution has been, and I won't be kind or diplomatic.

    The only thing that ever worked any kind of effect for me has been to avoid people and switch things off, telly, phone, computer etc, anything to reduce the number and type of inputs I'm getting. Athough there are things that I do that are just for me, I avoid those too as I know what will happen if something goes wrong with them whilst I'm feeling like that.

    I'm sorry Dan, I wish I could say something that hits the spot for you, but all I can offer you is understanding. If you're in that particular place where the crap just keeps piling up, you won't believe me or anyone because 'no-one understands'. The worst is that you feel isolated, you have to go through it alone, but you are not alone because we all know what's happening for you right now. It will pass, you'll get back in control, please try and hold onto that thought.

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