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Adult daughter refuses diagnosis

busahale

Hi to everyone in this group from myself and my wife. We have a 21 year old daughter who we believe to be on the ASD, probably Asperger’s, she is not diagnosed and refuses to see the GP. During her school life she had a SEN statement and received teaching support for moderate learning difficulties.

Since finishing FE College at 19 she has stayed living with us but her ASD traits seem to be evolving into a more confrontational approach to anyone who tries to help her. She stays in her bedroom most of the day and seems to think we are shouting at her just by asking her a question. This creates a vicious circle of increased isolation as we are reluctant to engage with her due to the unpredictable responses.

We would be grateful if anyone in the forum would be able to advise us regarding the way forward so that we can help her to make the most of what abilities she has and minimise the increasingly negative aspects of her behaviour.

We are in the Merseyside area,thank you.

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  • Hi, thanks very much for the reply. The reason that we would like our daughter to visit the GP is that all the NHS services that may be able to assist her seem to require a formal diagnosis before thay kick in, e.g. with help for employment  as well as the ASD management side of things.

    Several recurring behavioural examples are: firstly if she is in the kitchen helping to cook dinner with my wife then if she is asked to do a task then she thinks she is being shouted at and goes back up to her bedroom and slams the door behind her, shouting Stop shouting at me. Secondly often in a public place like a restaurant or supermarket, if asked a question she can start to shout loudly back at us; this can be very embarassing and on occasions we have been concerned for our own safety as members of the public have intervened asking us what we have done to make her act like that.

    She has some typical AS traits such as being unable to hold a meaningful interactive conversation and very repetitive behaviour, not willing to experiment with new ideas, wanting to go to the same places over and over again.

    On a more positive note she can be good company for short periods of time, has a very good memory and is quite adept with computer skills. We are getting in our 60's ourselves and will not be around forever to look after her.

    Thanks again

     

     

     

     

     

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  • Hi, thanks very much for the reply. The reason that we would like our daughter to visit the GP is that all the NHS services that may be able to assist her seem to require a formal diagnosis before thay kick in, e.g. with help for employment  as well as the ASD management side of things.

    Several recurring behavioural examples are: firstly if she is in the kitchen helping to cook dinner with my wife then if she is asked to do a task then she thinks she is being shouted at and goes back up to her bedroom and slams the door behind her, shouting Stop shouting at me. Secondly often in a public place like a restaurant or supermarket, if asked a question she can start to shout loudly back at us; this can be very embarassing and on occasions we have been concerned for our own safety as members of the public have intervened asking us what we have done to make her act like that.

    She has some typical AS traits such as being unable to hold a meaningful interactive conversation and very repetitive behaviour, not willing to experiment with new ideas, wanting to go to the same places over and over again.

    On a more positive note she can be good company for short periods of time, has a very good memory and is quite adept with computer skills. We are getting in our 60's ourselves and will not be around forever to look after her.

    Thanks again

     

     

     

     

     

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