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Threatened with the police and shouted at

mumof4boys772

So yesterday around 6.30pm when the supermarket was quieter i popped in to get prawns,yorkshire puds and fresh orange,that is all,my son has the biggest meltdown ever,  a lady pulled him up and said stop it tour embbarrasing your mother and a man screamed across the supermarket to my son "shut up we dont want to hear it! the police are on theyre way". anyway i hadd heard the police part till today and that has made me furious! i heard the shut up bit and i shouted back hes on the autistic spectrum!

My son was absiolutely screaming and refusing to leave the supermarket and it took me around an hour to get out.

Why are people like this, why are they so naive and ignorant?

There were two wondeful ladies there one kept followng him and of course he screamed at her to stop following him but she was trying to help and another watched my trolley whilst i tried to help calm him down and spoke to me she was lovely.

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  • How awful for you. The public can be absolute cretins when it comes to these things.

    I picked up there that two ladies were very kind and helpful,and I hope they were some comfort to you in a stressful situation.

    It is a pity that the Police didn't come, because then you would have had grounds to complain to them about the discriminatory comments from those ignorant people, and they could at least have 'had a word'. I expect that the chap there thought you were abusing the child - people love to jump to their ignorant conclusions.

    The trouble, as Longman points out, is that the Police are public too, no more likely to understand ASD than anyone else, and no more likely to try to, especially when public information is so poor. I've stopped, left what I'm doing and got out of there many times because it's all got too much for me. This applies to any and all situations where I'm out in public, from the Doctor's surgery to the supermarket. Sensory overload, I've never been able to explain it to a non-ASD person.

    Longman is right - you cannot teach anything to people who will not learn. People who want to learn, on the other hand, will always at least try to 'get it' and first, will try to do no harm. We have a way to go to get the wider public at least aware of the issue, so I've started - I've just e-mailed Sainsbury's to ask them what their awareness is of this as a Disability access issue. Could be interesting!

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  • How awful for you. The public can be absolute cretins when it comes to these things.

    I picked up there that two ladies were very kind and helpful,and I hope they were some comfort to you in a stressful situation.

    It is a pity that the Police didn't come, because then you would have had grounds to complain to them about the discriminatory comments from those ignorant people, and they could at least have 'had a word'. I expect that the chap there thought you were abusing the child - people love to jump to their ignorant conclusions.

    The trouble, as Longman points out, is that the Police are public too, no more likely to understand ASD than anyone else, and no more likely to try to, especially when public information is so poor. I've stopped, left what I'm doing and got out of there many times because it's all got too much for me. This applies to any and all situations where I'm out in public, from the Doctor's surgery to the supermarket. Sensory overload, I've never been able to explain it to a non-ASD person.

    Longman is right - you cannot teach anything to people who will not learn. People who want to learn, on the other hand, will always at least try to 'get it' and first, will try to do no harm. We have a way to go to get the wider public at least aware of the issue, so I've started - I've just e-mailed Sainsbury's to ask them what their awareness is of this as a Disability access issue. Could be interesting!

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