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Advice needed please!!

Lovemyson

Hi all please bear with me as I am new to this. My little boy is nearly 5 and we have recently had him assessed as from a young age we have had issues with his behaviour, these being aggression, anxiety, sleep issues, sensory issues and such like. We recently had him assessed and felt like it was a waste of our time. We are so exhausted and feel our little one is becoming worse. He is very bossy, cheeky, defiant, aggressive and it takes over our lives at times. He doesn't really like going anywhere and has major meltdowns if he is asked to do anything such as brush teeth, get dressed etc. He is very articulate and clever, always has been. His speech is amazing and people always say it's like having a conversation with an adult not a child, they have also said he is a Jekyll n Hyde character!!

At school he's well behaved, does at times appear anxious and flaps hands, took him a long time to make friends and can be bossy and dominant with others. He is doing extremely well at school with his learning and the teacher has said he is high expectant and with a push can be an achiever. At school he doesn't appear too bad but at home he's a nightmare!! He also rocks, paces, goes from one activity to another, repeats things over and over, appears deaf at times and likes structure. There are many other things I could say, as many of you would know but these are just a few of the things my son goes through most days. 

When we had him assessed the Paediatrician said he has high anxiety issues and hyperlexia. I didn't even know what hyperlexia was till I looked it up. I do not understand as when I read his it states it can be related to autism/Aspergers but the paediatrician told us he does not have autism due to his language skills and his empathy. I am at a total loss but have been told that we are discharged and no longer need to be seen. My little boy however, continues to find things difficult and us as parents are exhausted and need help. Anyone else been in the same boat??? Any advice would be so helpful!! 

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  • I know this is not of much consolation, but your experience is very typical of many going through the process of assessment.

    I'm a little saddened that you have been discharged however. In speaking with others I'm sure you have the right to a second opinion. You may wish to investigate this further. I had to get independant assessments for my boys, but I was dealing with oposite levels of need at the time, like Dyslexia. Despite the level of their severity, their need was not recognised, assessed or supported.

    The problems with diagnosis, are often born from ignorance amongst the teachers and practicitioners. Many with Aspergers are far from lacking empathy, in fact many are actually over sensitive.

    If you feel your child needs further assessment, then I suggest you act on it. I followed the teachers lead in believing the level of attainment, which I deeply regreted this now, as many years of lack of provision were lost.

    The choice of further investigation is always a personal one, but what you describe seems to indicate some very familiar signs and I think you are justified in your concern.

    Pedantic speech (Adult type) is a sign, but an individuals intellectual conversation skills, does not preclude the possibility that Aspergers may be present. Indeed the oposite is often true.

    Early intervention is key to your child developing good coping strategies for the future, if it is the case that your son has Autism, so just keep that in mind.

    I wish you luck.

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  • I know this is not of much consolation, but your experience is very typical of many going through the process of assessment.

    I'm a little saddened that you have been discharged however. In speaking with others I'm sure you have the right to a second opinion. You may wish to investigate this further. I had to get independant assessments for my boys, but I was dealing with oposite levels of need at the time, like Dyslexia. Despite the level of their severity, their need was not recognised, assessed or supported.

    The problems with diagnosis, are often born from ignorance amongst the teachers and practicitioners. Many with Aspergers are far from lacking empathy, in fact many are actually over sensitive.

    If you feel your child needs further assessment, then I suggest you act on it. I followed the teachers lead in believing the level of attainment, which I deeply regreted this now, as many years of lack of provision were lost.

    The choice of further investigation is always a personal one, but what you describe seems to indicate some very familiar signs and I think you are justified in your concern.

    Pedantic speech (Adult type) is a sign, but an individuals intellectual conversation skills, does not preclude the possibility that Aspergers may be present. Indeed the oposite is often true.

    Early intervention is key to your child developing good coping strategies for the future, if it is the case that your son has Autism, so just keep that in mind.

    I wish you luck.

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