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Let down by the system - can you help us ??

K2ako

Hi

My son is 12 and in mainstream school.

We are waiting for a formal diagnosis which is being done by the autism pathway ( behind closed doors -  not sure if this is common practice or not) we have been waiting for this for 2.5 years, no one seems to want to help us or point us in the right direction to what we need to get done for him. His behaviour was recoginsed by the primary school SENCO, but it is getting worse. His case goes to panel next month (may 28th)

I am at the end of my tether as may son is acting up at school ( mainly because despite me telling school of his issues they are still causing problems with him), teachers making him anxious by not reading the notes on him,not letting him speak or giving hima a chance to try to speak,  he is now becoming violent at school at objects and people.

The school also decided on friday in one of his lessons to flash up on the smart board a list of the children in teh class with special needs ( my son being one of them ) and what their issue was for all to see.

He is now being called a special needs r£%!$d which that word I hate with a passion...

And school ar wondering why he is hitting back now the kids in the class are picking on him because they disclosed this information to the whole class.

every day when coming home from school I have to calm him down from the anxiety the school ahve caused him because they seem to not know what they are doing. i feel like I am on the phone every day to them or at school everyday.

can any one help me I feel let down by the school, the hospital we have no key person to contact school have told me he doesn't need an EHP ( after reading up on this I think he does)

I just feel lost, alone and drained

please can some one reassure me or help me

thanks

worried, tired, scared mum

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  • Unofrtunately scholls can ahve no idea what we have to handle as parents,the last 3 or 4 years have been very very tough for us,its has been constant,it has been violent,its has been outragious with lots of screaming and swearing from our child and one teacher last year in her great wisdom decided to take him off his iep, telling him to tell mum to take him to the optician as he was blinking a lot!!!! the reason he was blinking a lot was because he was anxious!

    Come this year,different teacher,senco off a lot on sick, teacher says to me, "i think your child is on the autistic spectrum"!  but because the peadatrician has not had any info from school we have been told by pead he has autistic traits,sensorys issues and hypercussis....................

    Dad has just had a heart attack, he did smoke and we had tonnes of stress through all this, and hes had stents fitted and my son is still having meltdowns and calling his dad a big fat bast**d and kicking and screaming and being violent.

    The teacher has been good says she will do this that the other,whever it materlises or not i dont know,meanwhile i have printed and laminated him a visual time table for home and an american anger chart about good and bad choices,its about time i put my bottom into gear,its been very very hard as ive been feeling really depressed and not wanting to do anything because of how we are living but have realised untill i do anything things will not change.

    I sincerely wish you good luck and make the right choices for your child xxxx

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  • Unofrtunately scholls can ahve no idea what we have to handle as parents,the last 3 or 4 years have been very very tough for us,its has been constant,it has been violent,its has been outragious with lots of screaming and swearing from our child and one teacher last year in her great wisdom decided to take him off his iep, telling him to tell mum to take him to the optician as he was blinking a lot!!!! the reason he was blinking a lot was because he was anxious!

    Come this year,different teacher,senco off a lot on sick, teacher says to me, "i think your child is on the autistic spectrum"!  but because the peadatrician has not had any info from school we have been told by pead he has autistic traits,sensorys issues and hypercussis....................

    Dad has just had a heart attack, he did smoke and we had tonnes of stress through all this, and hes had stents fitted and my son is still having meltdowns and calling his dad a big fat bast**d and kicking and screaming and being violent.

    The teacher has been good says she will do this that the other,whever it materlises or not i dont know,meanwhile i have printed and laminated him a visual time table for home and an american anger chart about good and bad choices,its about time i put my bottom into gear,its been very very hard as ive been feeling really depressed and not wanting to do anything because of how we are living but have realised untill i do anything things will not change.

    I sincerely wish you good luck and make the right choices for your child xxxx

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