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Diagnosed 14.3.15 @ 41 years old

Deerstalker

Hello,

I was diagnosed yesterday with Aspergers.  Did the Baren-Cohen test in September 2014 after a lifetime of 'troubles'. Scored 32. After much soul searching, talking with my long suffering wife and reading around on the internet, I plucked up the courage to go to my GP in November 2014. She was AMAZING and referred me to the Autism team.  My assessment took place in February 2015 and I recieved my diagnosis yesterday - Saturday 14th March 2015

I am very lucky I realise - 5 months from GP to diagnosis is pretty quick I gather. I live in Birmingham.  NHS played a blinder for me. The diagnosis is a relief.

Time to start doing some reading and work out who, why, when and if I am going to tell people. 

Nice to meet you. 

  • So far so good.  

    Work are cool - asked if they are still allowed to take the p*** out of me for being a bit weird.  ABSOLUTELY!  I inisted on it

    (keeps real communication at arms length -ssssshh).

    Mum - AMAZING - 'well that does answer a lot of questions'. I thought she was going to do the whole - no you haven't/don't be silly thing. Mum has been ace. Properly impressed.

    Few friends - really?  Well know you say it - I can see it.  

    Fingers crossed for moving forward.  I'm sure seomeone will upset me soon but so far so good.  

    What are other people's coming out experiences?

  • That sounds encourgaing.  At the moment I have an overwhelming desire to tell people. I suppose in part it is to excuse past and future behaviours, but also, I have a strong sense of refusing to hide it.  I have spent all my life with the feeing that something isn't right.  Searching. Wondering. Worrying. Apologising. Berating myself.

    I feel a bit like I have completed my mission.  Found what I was looking for.

    At the moment I figure the people that like me will still like me and the people that think I am rude/arrogant/weird etc will still do so - so what's to lose?

    I am a bit concerend with possible detractors - i.e no you haven't/ you can't possibly/ *eye rollers*. I fear I may tear them a new one - and then stress about it.

    Ah the tangled webs......  TBH I am very comfortable with my diagnosis and myself for that matter.  It's just when you add other people to the mix that things get complicated.  

  • At first I decided to only tell select people but because that went well I've since told pretty much everyone I'm in contact with. Found it unnerving at first but it gets easier. 

  • Cheers,

    Have you told people?  If, so how did it go?

  • Pleased for you. I have a similar story to yours and received my diagnosis last May (at 43). Proves it's never too late to get the answers we need. Hope it brings you the freedom its brought me.