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Help and advise needed in West Sussex

Chelleypop

hello everyone. I won't go into all the details now as there is just so much to say, but for various reasons and incidents I have begun to believe that my 22 year old daughter may be on the autistic spectrum. She currently lives independently with her almost three year old daughter, and works full time as an admin apprentice at a college but has recently hit rock bottom. I fear she is abusing alcohol and smoking canabis. She says she cannot socialise without alcohol and she only feels 'normal' when she's drunk. She says she has always felt different and never really fit in. She was a late talker, but is very intelligent but she struggles with certain things. She has been taking antidepressants for three weeks. I haven't broached her yet with my suspicicions. Obviously there are lots of issues to deal with but I feel that a diagnosis might be a positive step. She might be kinder to herself if she knew why she struggled. 

Does anyone know if there is any where that does adult assessments in our area? What does my daughter say to the GP? And how do I broach it with my daughter? 

huge thanks in advance 

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  • Thanks coogybear, you have been a geat help. I can imagine a diagnosis could also help my daughter. She has already labelled herself as odd, different, an outsider, so a formal diagnosis that enables her to identify with a group of people who struggle with some of the things she struggles with, may prove a relief. At the moment she feels very much alone. Recognising she drinks to feel normal has been a big first step I think. After I have read the books (I've ordered three now, two particularly geared toward women with aspergers and one connected to alcohol use), if I think they might resonate with her I will pass them on and take it from there. 

    Stateofindependence thanks for your reply. I hope your NHS diagnosis does not take too long. I have read that AA does not tend to work for people with aspergers (as a rule). I wonder if Alan carrs method (the man famous for writing books on quitting smoking and drinking) would be better as they are pure logic, aimed at making you never want to drink or smoke again. no will power involved. 

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  • Thanks coogybear, you have been a geat help. I can imagine a diagnosis could also help my daughter. She has already labelled herself as odd, different, an outsider, so a formal diagnosis that enables her to identify with a group of people who struggle with some of the things she struggles with, may prove a relief. At the moment she feels very much alone. Recognising she drinks to feel normal has been a big first step I think. After I have read the books (I've ordered three now, two particularly geared toward women with aspergers and one connected to alcohol use), if I think they might resonate with her I will pass them on and take it from there. 

    Stateofindependence thanks for your reply. I hope your NHS diagnosis does not take too long. I have read that AA does not tend to work for people with aspergers (as a rule). I wonder if Alan carrs method (the man famous for writing books on quitting smoking and drinking) would be better as they are pure logic, aimed at making you never want to drink or smoke again. no will power involved. 

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