What is even the point of diagnosis??!!!

My son is 15, coming up 16, and was diagnosed with ASD and ADHD in October. 

i've always known he's on the autistic spectrum but he's slipped through the net quite spectacularly, and I feel totally let down by the school and the system.  Anyways- apart from the school panicking he's going to fail his GCSEs (probably purely because of his league tables!) and throwing extra maths etc at him, very little has changed. I don't feel there is any support or understanding or anyone to turn to with regard to him leaving school and becoming 'independent' which he really isn't. 

I actually feel I've been punished for coping too well, and I'm pretty terrified about him going to college and getting there in one piece. And now I have to prove he needs help!!! Is the diagnosis itself not enough proof that he MAY actually need support???? how do I PROVE that my son won't go anywhere without his mum??!! Has no friends?! Is adamant he isn't going to college??!! And what's worse is his brother is 15 months younger and Mr Sociable, never home, really confident, and like a huge spotlight pointing at his brothers difficulties. I feel more alone than when I knew I was right pre diagnosis :( 

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  • Coogybear you are a rock- thank you. I really needed to let some of this steam go as Im Enormously frustrated. And angry with myself that I'm not stronger. And upset that not only does my boy have to deal with asd but that I now have to fight for simple help for him. It's a ridiculous and very broken system. I'm not a good shouter - hence him being year 11 and on,y just being recognised by the education system :(

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  • Coogybear you are a rock- thank you. I really needed to let some of this steam go as Im Enormously frustrated. And angry with myself that I'm not stronger. And upset that not only does my boy have to deal with asd but that I now have to fight for simple help for him. It's a ridiculous and very broken system. I'm not a good shouter - hence him being year 11 and on,y just being recognised by the education system :(

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