What is even the point of diagnosis??!!!

My son is 15, coming up 16, and was diagnosed with ASD and ADHD in October. 

i've always known he's on the autistic spectrum but he's slipped through the net quite spectacularly, and I feel totally let down by the school and the system.  Anyways- apart from the school panicking he's going to fail his GCSEs (probably purely because of his league tables!) and throwing extra maths etc at him, very little has changed. I don't feel there is any support or understanding or anyone to turn to with regard to him leaving school and becoming 'independent' which he really isn't. 

I actually feel I've been punished for coping too well, and I'm pretty terrified about him going to college and getting there in one piece. And now I have to prove he needs help!!! Is the diagnosis itself not enough proof that he MAY actually need support???? how do I PROVE that my son won't go anywhere without his mum??!! Has no friends?! Is adamant he isn't going to college??!! And what's worse is his brother is 15 months younger and Mr Sociable, never home, really confident, and like a huge spotlight pointing at his brothers difficulties. I feel more alone than when I knew I was right pre diagnosis :( 

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  • I forgot to ask, Does your son get DLA?

    If so, you can use it toward private therapy with an Autism Aware councellor. I had to do this for my son when CAHMs sessions were unproductive. Turned out it was money well spent as he learned way more coping strategies. Additionally, CAHMs often only offer a set number of sessions. My experience is that every individual heals at a different rate and few heal to a prescibed time.Worth considering, if you feel he needs it.

    Do ask if I can be of any further support

    Coogy

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  • I forgot to ask, Does your son get DLA?

    If so, you can use it toward private therapy with an Autism Aware councellor. I had to do this for my son when CAHMs sessions were unproductive. Turned out it was money well spent as he learned way more coping strategies. Additionally, CAHMs often only offer a set number of sessions. My experience is that every individual heals at a different rate and few heal to a prescibed time.Worth considering, if you feel he needs it.

    Do ask if I can be of any further support

    Coogy

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