Paying Privately for Adult Aspergers Assessment?

Agreed, it seems bizarre but you only get help, it seems, if you've got OCD or depression or some other secondary problem. 

The Health professionals, perhaps because their main experience is with clinical patients with ancilliary problems, have little grasp of the actual effects of aspergers by itself.

Referring back to the title of another thread (I nearly left it as this thread!), my main concern now is growing older. I cannot find out much if anything about how age affects aspergers.

For me a major problem is isolation. I don't form close friendships or relationships. I'm not a recluse, I get out and about and get doing things so I know a lot of people, but not to the extent that I could really ask a favour. I've been looking after myself for 37 years - I've no-one looking after me - the buck stops with me.

Having had cancer over a period two to four years ago, I got through mostly on my own, though relatives visited periodically.  But day to day I had to fend for myself through the chemo, and the bad reactions, and the loss of immunity, because I'm hopelessly bad at getting people in to help.

So getting old and infirm is largely a concern about how long I can cope on my own. Going into a home would be my worst nightmare.

Agreed, it seems bizarre but you only get help, it seems, if you've got OCD or depression or some other secondary problem. 

The Health professionals, perhaps because their main experience is with clinical patients with ancilliary problems, have little grasp of the actual effects of aspergers by itself.

Referring back to the title of another thread (I nearly left it as this thread!), my main concern now is growing older. I cannot find out much if anything about how age affects aspergers.

For me a major problem is isolation. I don't form close friendships or relationships. I'm not a recluse, I get out and about and get doing things so I know a lot of people, but not to the extent that I could really ask a favour. I've been looking after myself for 37 years - I've no-one looking after me - the buck stops with me.

Having had cancer over a period two to four years ago, I got through mostly on my own, though relatives visited periodically.  But day to day I had to fend for myself through the chemo, and the bad reactions, and the loss of immunity, because I'm hopelessly bad at getting people in to help.

So getting old and infirm is largely a concern about how long I can cope on my own. Going into a home would be my worst nightmare.