Bit of a ramble this one, but one I thought was relevant on this forum.
Like most of you on here, I have always felt different, odd, antisocial, confused and all the rest, and after reading about Aspergers and many of the stories from people on the spectrum, I'm quite confident that is where I am. I have my initial appointment next month so I will see where that takes me.
However, also like most of you, once I want to know about a subject, I keep on searching and reading everything out there. The danger with that, I have found, is that you will always find something which matches you. At that point, it is easy to say "hey, that must be what's wrong with me, I now have x, y and z plus 5 things ending in axia".
I have found so many things which apparently explain the way I am, the way I act, the issues I have and the strengths I have. But, are they correct? Just because someone on the spectrum experiences something, does it mean it is related? Does it mean because some of us too may experience it that it is also relevant? At which point do we stop trying to all match up? It just seems too easy. Especially for those who are not officially diagnosed. I understand why many don't want to be officially diagnosed or why they haven't been able to get a diagnosis, but it all seems very dangerous for someone to decide they have a disorder, or whatever you want to call it. I think it's actually one of the things which has turned many people against the whole thing - even my GP told me it was a bit trendy to try and be aspergic. Some of you may find that offensive but I know exactly what he means.
If you look on a forum like Netmums, there are a frightening number of parents saying their 2 or 3 year olds have Aspergers. They almost seem to use it as a badge of honour and a route to get more help at school. Can you truly tell if a 2 or 3 year old has something like Aspergers? My 3 year old daughter was a bit of a worry and showed so many traits of AS, but out of nowhere she has come out of her shell and now shows none of those issues - we changed nothing, just let her be herself. Kids are so unique at that age and all have their strengths and weaknesses that it seems crazy to label them so early.
This forum is no different to any other I guess - I am a member of a car forum and if you read enough of other people's problems you're bound to find one you can link to your car too. The question is is the issue really there, or is it just the way your car is?
Anyway, that's enough I think. I hope I haven't offended anyone, I just thought it was worth a discussion.