I'm really struggling in my relationship and need some help on how to look after my partner and myself.
Recently my partner told me the only reason she's with me is because she has nowhere else to go. And when I try to talk about how I'm feeling I'm called selfish. She's got ADHD and I don't always do things to match and help her needs, and make small mistakes (dontbwr all though?) That feel like life or death,but I feel like I'm a target for anger and resentment over these things. One recent example is when I cancelled a cat sitter appointment because we'd both be in. I didn't tell her but thought it was common knowledge the cat sitter wasn't coming, and acted on initiative. I shouldn't feel like I have to ask her to do most tasks like this.
We're supposed to be getting married in December but I think we need to delay this to get back on track and start to feel more happy about the idea of getting married. I don't know what to do. I have a councillor who I will be talking to on Friday.
