How to work and still function at home?

I understand this as I also struggle n the day I work and have no energy for anything else. Luckily I live with my husband who makes sure I eat and shower. 

Could you try batch cooking -  cook a big meal on your day off (like a big curry or stew) and then freeze portions or heat up portions on the days you're working?

Another suggestion would be to buy some microwave ready meals for the days you're working.

Thank you. Unfortunately, I live alone at the moment and have to rely on myself to enforce these habits and I know that I'm a pushover so won't do it. I think my sensory issues are my main motivation for keeping clean.

I do try batch cooking but, usually, when I have energy to cook, I forget that it won't last forever and think I'll be able to do it again the whole week and might manage for a few days before burning out again. I get too optimistic about my ability and pay for it later.

I know they are ok to have but i have a resistance to microwave meals. Logically, I know that eating a microwave meal is healthier than not eating or filling up on high calorie snacks but the resistance remains stubbornly in my head. Something to work on.

As for eating, I also struggle with noticing I'm hungry before I am starving. When I am in work there is often so much to do that I can easily forget to stop for lunch and not eat until I get home. By that point I will be extremely hangry and not have energy to make food because I haven't eaten. Often just microwaving something can feel like a huge task and even worse if I have gone off whatever I bought or made for that week.

I have been trying to keep easy but healthier snacking options around, especially because I think I snack as a stim more than I realised. This also gives me something to eat quickly to get some energy to then try to cook or do something more intensive than just opening a packet. I now often eat a whole head of lettuce as a crisp alternative when i just want something crunchy or have a cucumber sliced or cut into sticks and eat it in a specific way that takes a bit of time per piece so it lasts longer.

The hidden steps in tasks (e.g. cooking pasta means getting the packet, measuring out a correct portion, filling a pot with water (if no clean pot, needing to wash one first), setting a timer or remembering to check as it cooks, draining, plating and finally eating ) or the build up of tasks I have neglected is also often a barrier (e.g. not having dishes for cooking or eating because I have been avoiding the dishes until I run out).

Yes I get this. One thing that has helped me sometimes is eating the same thing every day. It helped me to relieve the cognitive load of making a decision. For a long time when I lived alone I ate a packet of microwave rice with a corn on the cob (microwaved) and some coleslaw everyday. 

I know that doesn't contain much protein but at least I got some veg and making the same thing without having to think about it made it easier to make part of my routine. 

Also one thing at work I did to force myself to take a lunch break was putting a half hour break in my Teams calendar at the same time every day as if it was a meeting. I still felt tempted to work through it but I forced myself to have a break and eat something. 

Yes I get this. One thing that has helped me sometimes is eating the same thing every day. It helped me to relieve the cognitive load of making a decision. For a long time when I lived alone I ate a packet of microwave rice with a corn on the cob (microwaved) and some coleslaw everyday. 

I know that doesn't contain much protein but at least I got some veg and making the same thing without having to think about it made it easier to make part of my routine. 

Also one thing at work I did to force myself to take a lunch break was putting a half hour break in my Teams calendar at the same time every day as if it was a meeting. I still felt tempted to work through it but I forced myself to have a break and eat something. 

I think I do that partially already. My current go to meal (especially in this heat) is a bag of ready made salad with some dressing, cooked chicken and some seeds or nuts added. I do have to go to the shops more often as they only stay good for a few days but I try to go on the way home from work so its not an entire new outing. For a while I was doing poke bowls but they take too much prep at the moment. Suddenly going off a food I was really enjoying can be frustrating too.

My work doesn't really allow for setting aside a whole chunk of time for just food. I will try setting a reminder to eat lunch that I can tick off when I have (I already use this method to remind me to take my pills in the mornings) as the issue of not noticing I am hungry is the main thing in work. Even when I do notice, I get distracted by a task and forget again, sometimes for hours!