Not sure about getting diagnosis

I should probably start by stating that I'm not from nor living in the UK. That being said, the reason why I am here is because I happen to live in a country where if you have any psychological issue, you're crazy, so, there is really nobody for me talk about this where I live.

I am a 17 years old girl, and I have dealt with social problems ever since I can remember. I don't like talking to people (any sort of people) nor do I like their company, but my mother is part of a community and constantly makes me attend parties and social events that I hate. It's not that I am afraid of people, I simply don't like being around them. My happiest moments are when I'm by myself. My father is your typical macho man: racist, homophobic and incomprehensive. An older second degree cousin of mine has been diagnosed with autism and I remember that ever since he was a kid, my parents regarded him as a genious, but insane. 

I was a child prodigy and it didn't take me long to realize that there was something unusual about my behavior in comparison to other people's. I few years ago  I learned about autism and couldn't help but notice that I showed many of the symptoms.I've taken online tests, and, although they all said that it's highly likely that I have Asperger's, I've read that they are not necessarily accurate.

I wanted to get some sort of help or just advice maybe on this, but I'm not sure about a diagnosis. First, I don't even know for sure that it will help, and, I don't even know how to get a diagnosis. I don't know how I'd talk to my parents about this, or how I'd handle being seen as crazy.

Any advice would be welcomed. Thank you.

  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Welcome to the community!

    Having a diagnosis can be a mixed blessing. It can certainly help you accept and understand your strengths and weaknesses.

    It isn't an illness in the normal sense of the word. It's a difference that can set you apart from other people but the others aren't classified as ill because they are different to you are they?

    it is however normally diagnosec by a psychiatrist and this can sound bad. However, they are the experts who can distinguish our condition from a mental illness.

    it sounds as though a diagnosis may not be accepted where you are. In this case the diagnosis may have less value. Perhaps you could find a specialist who could discuss the pros and cons with you before you decide to go ahead?