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Faecal incontinence

Cazchatz

My 36yr old son has started becoming incontinent having never been so before. It has coincided with him having to move from his supported accommodation because it closed down. He spends weekends with us. I understand this is difficult but it has been going on for months and is not improving. We have had advice from an incontinence nurse and I have tried being patient, being annoyed, rewards, talking to him and many other things none of which are working. We can only hope it improves as he gets used to a new flat during the week but any suggestions/support welcome. I am at the end of my tether with it - it is horrible! Thanks

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  • It happened me, this afternoon, on a train back from Belfast. I realised that I 'dirtied myself' and became self-conscious of the smell. I had to move to another seat, once one was vacant.

    Loose bowl movement is a common symptom of stress, I remember learning that from School; back in the days. Even being exposed to the term 'fight-or-flight' back in 1992. Of course, back then, the money was in keeping us fit, rather than keeping us unhealthy. But that's for another discussion.

    I never had a sense of smell. Too much exposure to ammonium-nitrate, from the fertilisers in our family farm, probably overstimulated that sense.

  • in reply to Desmond1979

    That sounds awful - being stuck on a train, suddenly aware of it, no escape till a seat opens. The self-consciousness must've been brutal. And yeah, stress does that - loose bowels are straight-up fight-or-flight fallout. Your body dumps everything it can to lighten the load, literally. School science class nailed it, even if they didn't warn us how real it feels later.

    The smell thing... ammonium-nitrate from the farm? That tracks - those fumes can fry olfactory nerves over time, especially if you're breathing it in young. No wonder you lost it. Some folks call it "anosmia from chemicals," but really? It's just your nose saying "enough."

    You're not gross - you're human. And if it helps, most people are too wrapped up in their own heads to notice. Next time, maybe pack a spare pair of undies in your bag? Or even a discreet pad - just in case. No shame, just prep.

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  • in reply to Desmond1979

    That sounds awful - being stuck on a train, suddenly aware of it, no escape till a seat opens. The self-consciousness must've been brutal. And yeah, stress does that - loose bowels are straight-up fight-or-flight fallout. Your body dumps everything it can to lighten the load, literally. School science class nailed it, even if they didn't warn us how real it feels later.

    The smell thing... ammonium-nitrate from the farm? That tracks - those fumes can fry olfactory nerves over time, especially if you're breathing it in young. No wonder you lost it. Some folks call it "anosmia from chemicals," but really? It's just your nose saying "enough."

    You're not gross - you're human. And if it helps, most people are too wrapped up in their own heads to notice. Next time, maybe pack a spare pair of undies in your bag? Or even a discreet pad - just in case. No shame, just prep.

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