13 year old is peeing into tubs in her room

Hi all,

I have just come across this forum and thought I would see if anyone has been in the same position and has any advice they can offer me. 

My daughter is 13 and we are currently waiting on an assessment so not officially diagnosed but I strongly believe she is on the spectrum somewhere.

She has always had problems with bladder control and we have been referred to specialists but none seem to find anything wrong. She has recently, over the last few months started peeing into things in her bedroom which is never big enough so it spills all over the carpet. She will wee into anything, pots that are meant to be draw organisers, bowls and even sweet packets. She then hides them under her bed. We are constantly (twice this weekend) cleaning the carpet with a carpet cleaner but her room smells awful.

We have tried to talk to her but she won't admit what she is doing. She likes to keep such a clean and tidy room so this is bizarre that she doesn't seem to mind her room smelling of urine.

She has her own bathroom literally next to her bedroom, we have a nightlight just outside the door too but she just won't stop doing it.

We have also recently discovered she started her period but won't talk about it and she is hiding used sanitary towels in her draws with her clean clothes. We just don't know what to do to help her!

Has anyone else experienced anything like this and have any advice?

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  • Stress can make you go more. Before I burnt out last year I was going up to 4 times each night, I thought it was diabetes or prostate, but was neither 

    I wonder if she has been made fun of at school, or prevented from going by teachers, so just feels it is wrong. She may not want to draw attention to it it feels to ashamed to say anything.

    Even with a toilet next door, people will hear or notice. Trying not to be seen or draw attention to yourself can happen when struggling.

    She may just go silent if you try to talk about it. Shame is terrible, even when people tell you not to be ashamed.

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  • Stress can make you go more. Before I burnt out last year I was going up to 4 times each night, I thought it was diabetes or prostate, but was neither 

    I wonder if she has been made fun of at school, or prevented from going by teachers, so just feels it is wrong. She may not want to draw attention to it it feels to ashamed to say anything.

    Even with a toilet next door, people will hear or notice. Trying not to be seen or draw attention to yourself can happen when struggling.

    She may just go silent if you try to talk about it. Shame is terrible, even when people tell you not to be ashamed.

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