is my son autistic?

Hello verybody. My son is 14 months old and he exibits some unusual behavior and on the other hand some of his behavior are perfectly normal. WE are worried if he is suffering from autism. WE tried pforessional help but doc said diagnosis cannot be done before he child is at least 2 years old. We are really worried as we all know that early detecion is he key to success in treating such diseases. Please give your opinion if you think my son is suffering from autism. he does the following:

1) He can stand and walk with support but not without support.

2) he has very little vocabulary in the sense that he can olny vaguely say words like 'mammamma', 'waawaa', 'taataataa' etc that too not always directed to us or anybody.

3)Most of the time he does not respond to his name though no always.Some times he does.

4)frequently gets very upset or rather angry and expresses it wih clenched fists and long screams sometimes for reasons like a toy snatched from his hands, someimes without any apparent reason.

5) does not seem to be inerested in mixing up with other kids. When presented with any, he would generally shy away but won't cry or react, raher look at their direction from our lap.

On the other hand he

1) most of the time seems very happy when his dad comes from work and crawls to him and loves to throw his legs in excitement when carried by him. kisses and laughes at us often.

2) mimics our actions like putting the comb to hair(his own and ours), holding the remote out to a/c or tv pressing its buttons, trying to put a shoe on his foot, taking the glass to his mouh in a posture to drink from it. Alse will blink at us if we blink at him.

3)does not love to be left alone. If one leaves him alone in a room and goes to the other room, he will follow except when he is engrossed in something like playing with building blocks and likes. Even then he will eventually come may be after some time.

4) he would often, though not always give things to my hand and then would giggle and jump up and down merrily when thanked and appreciated wih a hug and kiss.

5)enjoys to play pick-a-boo a lot. and has long sesssions of laughing and playing with his dad when he does things like rubbing his nose with his or sicking his tounge out.

as parents we are really very worried about our son as we are not sure if anyhthing is unnatural wih him but we instinctively feel that something is jus not right. PLease give your opinion and suggestions abou the situation. waiing for your responses.

  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Have a look at www.nhs.uk/.../Birth to 5 development timeline.htm

    In my view (not a doctor) your child sounds entirely normal. Note that there are big ranges on the ages when kids start to do particular things for example

    "12-18 months Takes an interest in words"

    i.e. some kids start significantly earler than others This doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with a child waiting to 18 months.

    Also, see www.babycentre.co.uk/.../developmental-milestones-socialisation

    Babies simply do not play nicely when they are young. This page says you can hope to have your baby learn how to make friends between 13 and 23 months - i.e. at 14 months I wouldn't expect a baby to play nicely with others (who probably haven't learnt how to play nicely either). Have patience!

    What you can do is be calm and consistent with the child - teach it that when you say no you mean it and don't give in if you have said no. This actually means being very careful about not saying no too easily. Good parenting skills apply to all kids but especially to autistic kids. So, if you learn to do this now then you will get a payoff whichever way your child turns out.

  • Hi blessings of love,

    Welcome. Could I just say, that Autism isn't classed as a disease. I believe it's classed as a lifelong developemental disability and their is no cure. However; that said, you are right that early intervention is instrumental in ensuring wellbeing. Your child whether Autistic or not is precious. You will have years ahead of you worriying about all manner of things, so worrying about an undiagnosed condition could be fruitless.

    Personally, I would go with your gut instinct and look at interventions that may help in any areas he struggles with. All children develop at different rates and it could be that he's moving at the right pace for him.

    I had an idea that their was something wrong with my own son as his communication was slow, so I learned to sign with him together with speaking. Now he both speaks and signs perfectly, but I can't sign at all. Putting strategies in place is fine. It won't do any harm. If you feel strongly enough about it, persue it when he gets to 2 years. And then take it from their. I'm sure you are great parents and will do all you can.

    Enjoy your child and even if they do turn out to be on the spectrum. Celebrate their difference.

    Kind Regards,

    CoogyBear.

  • Former Member
    Former Member

    14 months is very young to work this sort of thing out. Children vary a lot and they learn to walk and do other things at quite different ages. Our eldest walked very early but we know lots of kids that couldn't walk without support until 15-18 months. He didn't speak until quite late (> 18 months, if I remember correctly) and then became very verbose very quickly.

    I'm guessing that this is your first child? We panicked and fretted about every last thing that our first did and was then much more relaxed with the second.

    Does your GP or health visitor think anything's wrong?