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Being referred

Ellioru

My partner is 25 and believes he has Aspergers. When he was younger a few of his teachers mentioned it to his parents but for whatever reason his parents didn't go any further with it.

He went through a few tests online and we decided to pursue it. He saw the Doctor a few weeks ago and the Dr tried putting my partner off going any further as it would effect his life for the worse (i.e career prospects would be gone, etc) - he gave my partner a questionnaire to fill out in his own time and to come back in 2 weeks. When I was told what the Dr said I was annoyed, and it definitely put my partner off going back.

After some discussions recently we filled out the questionnaire and he got 10/10, which says on the sheet he should be referred. Today he went back to the Drs and was told they would not refer him as he is too old, he needs to do it private. The Dr then decided that my Partner has depression and that's that. I am just gobsmacked, I really am. 

What options do we have? He is struggling with everyday life and I want him to be able to get the support he wants.

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    @Hope would insist on a diagnosis, I wouldn't insist.

    One way to tackle this would be to take a referral for depression which should get him to a specialist. Then tell the specialist that you believe that the depression (if that's what is apparent) was caused by the Asperger's. The specialist should be competent to make a differential diagnosis and get to the bottom of his issues. Don't get fobbed off with some pills for depression as this won't fix the underlying issue which may well be Asperger's.

    Depression is hard to spot from the outside and it is very common among undiagnosed Aspies as they continually hit obstacles in dealing with the non-Aspie world. I was suffering from depression and stress prior to diagnosis and these have both gone (at least 99% so far anyways).

    HTH

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  • Former Member
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    @Hope would insist on a diagnosis, I wouldn't insist.

    One way to tackle this would be to take a referral for depression which should get him to a specialist. Then tell the specialist that you believe that the depression (if that's what is apparent) was caused by the Asperger's. The specialist should be competent to make a differential diagnosis and get to the bottom of his issues. Don't get fobbed off with some pills for depression as this won't fix the underlying issue which may well be Asperger's.

    Depression is hard to spot from the outside and it is very common among undiagnosed Aspies as they continually hit obstacles in dealing with the non-Aspie world. I was suffering from depression and stress prior to diagnosis and these have both gone (at least 99% so far anyways).

    HTH

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