Relationship Problems Help

Ok thank you

Stuart333 said:

You could Google for relationship counselling, autism aware.

Yeah I’ve been through couples counseling with my NT wife and it really helped with communication issues. I second that suggestion. And as Stuart333 said, you can find counselors out there that have experience with Autism.

Dear KaneDuncan, 

We have a directory which may help you find some support in your local area. Please find the link here:

https://www.autism.org.uk/autism-services-directory

Also, we have a specific page on relationships. Please find the link here:

https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/family-life-and-relationships

Sometimes it may be helpful for others to understand more about autism. I wonder if there is some helpful advice in this section to help you or to share?

https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/what-is-autism

I hope there is something there to help you

With best wishes, 

Anna Mod

Remember there are two people in a relationship, so you don't assume all the blame.

You could Google for relationship counselling, autism aware.

There is also a book which may help.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Loving-Someone-Aspergers-Syndrome-Understanding/dp/1608820777

I noticed there is also another.

https://www.worldofbooks.com/en-gb/products/asperger-syndrome-autism-spectrum-disorder-and-long-term-relationships-book-ashley-stanford-9781849057738

Good luck. I wish I'd had hese.

My partner is neurotypical yes, it's like I don't understand what people say straight away or what I say straight away, usually takes extra explanation on both sides, sometimes I could say things that aren't particularly nice without realising it 

72678 said:

we are currently on a break because my inability to understand propper wording or understand most things really

I'm sorry to hear that this is causing problems for you but I think this is a fairly common issue for autists when in relationships and is typically influenced strongly by our autstic traits.

Can you explain how the inability to undertand wording appears for you? For example does someone say something to you and you hear the words but actually processing what they mean only happens later on? This example is called delayed processing but there are other examples that are are connected to autism.

If you can explain it in more detail it may be easier for us to give some feedback to you.

Is your partner neurotypical (ie not autistic)?