Getting a diagnoses

Hello, I'm Charlotte and I'm 24, I have a family history of Autism and believe that I also have it. I have posted on here before but I lost my username and password. 

I went to the doctor like everybody said, and basically he turned me down saying that it was expensive for a diagnoses and because it wouldn't make much difference in my knowing whether r not I had it, then I wouldn't be allowed a diagnoses, and I could pursue it  if I wanted to go private, but I looked into that and its an expense that I cannot afford.

I have put in to change doctors surgery, because I still had the same one even though I left home over 6 years ago, and my new one is round the corner, so I am going to try again at speaking to the doctor. I found it a really intimidateing experience, because I always feel like a hypochondriac when I go, and I hardly ever go to the doctors for that reason.

Even when I took a detailed explanation of why I wanted a diagnoses, they still turned me down, what do I have to do to make them take me seriously, because at the end of the day, its the doctor I have to persuade to send me for actual testing.

I am not looking at getting benefits, or using as an excuse, but for the reason that I want to find out about myself, and if diagnosed, would think very hard about bringing a child into the world that could also have Autism. I have just started a new job in an University, and think that exploring Autism might benefit me in understanding people, and helping towards my career so I don't feel self concious about people thinking I am weird or doing the wrong thing. I tend to be very quiet and don't say much because I am scared that I will say something wrong.

I hope that you could help me, and refer me to literature that might help me make my case, and also are there any directives that a doctor must follow when I make a request to be at least referred to someone who could possibly make a decision. I have read that your family are often involved in the diagnosis, I do not want my family to be included as I don't speak to them, would this hinder my chance of even a consultation?

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  • After going through what my parents did with one possibly two children with autism  very close in age (18 months apart), and the fact it sent my mum into a spiralling depression because she just couldn't cope. I am not good at coping with things, and also for the child. They could have very slight Aspergers, or they could have a debilitating condition, that doesn't give them a quality of life that I would want to give them. I was bullied throughout school for being weird, and never had any friends. Had problems at work due to bullying, although this is where I met my partner. I couldn't relax if I know my child has an increased risk, although I do know they would to a point with my dad and my brother having it, but if I had it also, I feel that there is a even bigger chance through direct link from a parent being Autistic

    I do have a partner at the moment, who I have been with for a while, and he understands that I am weird. 

    I did the AQ test and got 44. 

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  • After going through what my parents did with one possibly two children with autism  very close in age (18 months apart), and the fact it sent my mum into a spiralling depression because she just couldn't cope. I am not good at coping with things, and also for the child. They could have very slight Aspergers, or they could have a debilitating condition, that doesn't give them a quality of life that I would want to give them. I was bullied throughout school for being weird, and never had any friends. Had problems at work due to bullying, although this is where I met my partner. I couldn't relax if I know my child has an increased risk, although I do know they would to a point with my dad and my brother having it, but if I had it also, I feel that there is a even bigger chance through direct link from a parent being Autistic

    I do have a partner at the moment, who I have been with for a while, and he understands that I am weird. 

    I did the AQ test and got 44. 

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