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Why does none of this make sense?

ladynicotine

I've existed with depression for 17 years, medication works intermittantly, but am slowly & steadily getting worse.  There is a family history of depression, so I suspect I've got a dodgy gene somewhere.

 

Two months ago I was diagnosed as having ASD.  I've suspected this was the case for a number of years, but I seem to be finding people more & more difficult to relate to - probably as a result of the worsening depression.  I thought that getting an ASD diagnosis would mean I might be able to get some help with the "social communication" difficulties I'm having, & this might help lift the depression.  I know I will never be free of either.  However, all I seem to have got is "yes, you've got ASD, off you go & have a nice life".

 

I know I'm very lucky.  I'm still managing to work (I have to, to pay the mortgage), & I have no major issues communicating with people.  However all I can find is information along the lines of "you can deal with these issues in these ways" - but I don't really know what my issues are in any detail.  Apparently I'm supposed to feel relieved as a result of my diagnosis as now I "know I'm not alone".  This makes no sense to me - how does knowing others are suffering make me feel better?  I've tried asking the psychologist who diagnosed me & she couldn't/wouldn't explain.

The only person who seems to have benefited from the diagnosis is my psychiatrist - as I suspect that all the problems I've had with medication/therapy over the years will now be put down to "you're misinterpretting it because you have ASD".

What am I doing wrong?

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  • Hello again,

    I do appreciate completely what you say and the waking in an anxious state rings many familiar bells for me. The Black Dog as I refer to it, can creep up without warning and can be unforgiving to say the least. I've never found medication of any help personally, in fact one nearly pushed me completely over the edge, so I've often had to face my dog with the very rawest feelings deep depression can bring.

    For me, a multi-pronged approach has been the best way forward. (Mind, Body and Soul if you will.)

    Can I ask, is your therapist a specialist in ASD? Some of the things you have mentioned, lead me to believe they don't have a full appreciation of what it is to be on the spectrum. Telling anyone to just 'pull themselves together or just stop thinking it' is not helpful. 

    Coogy.

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  • Hello again,

    I do appreciate completely what you say and the waking in an anxious state rings many familiar bells for me. The Black Dog as I refer to it, can creep up without warning and can be unforgiving to say the least. I've never found medication of any help personally, in fact one nearly pushed me completely over the edge, so I've often had to face my dog with the very rawest feelings deep depression can bring.

    For me, a multi-pronged approach has been the best way forward. (Mind, Body and Soul if you will.)

    Can I ask, is your therapist a specialist in ASD? Some of the things you have mentioned, lead me to believe they don't have a full appreciation of what it is to be on the spectrum. Telling anyone to just 'pull themselves together or just stop thinking it' is not helpful. 

    Coogy.

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