Everyone talks to me like I’m a child except for my sister. She treats me like an adult but the only one who does.
There’s a neighbour who talks really loud at me like I’m deaf even though I’m not. As soon as my mum told them I have ASD she said I’m sorry to hear that like its a disease and has spoken loud at me like I suffer deafness since. People can be strange. Most talk down to me; like you would a child.
The only time I've ever really had that was with a bank teller, speaking loudly and slowly at me, she know I was ASC, so I told her I was autistic and not deaf or stupid and could she please deal with what I wanted, not what she thought I should have. I did complain about her to the manager.
I'm okay with short things (or things I've heard before) generally
The problems begin when some NT launches into a rather long sentence containing euphemisms and silly phraseology that doubles the length of what needed to be said.
Gives me a choice of whether to make out that I understood - or to ask them to explain.
They generally don't like to explain (sometimes because they don't even understand what they are saying themselves)
Double empathy can kick-in here & you end up feeling sorry for the flustered NT and you either say 'It's OK, I get it' or you feel you need to justify why you didn't get it in the first place - such as 'I'm such a nerd, I'm autistic I'm afraid, I can't help it'
Then you get this knowing look, as if that explains it all. You are the dumba**s and they are justified.
I mean, if its nothing official, my advice is to walk away - far less stressful.
