Summer is coming and the neighbours are getting loud

I love to garden, but the neighbours i the street over the hedge where several houses back on to our garden are getting ever louder, loud to the point where I don't want to be out there at weekends, after school and in school holidays, it feels to stressful with competing music from different houses, people shouting and talking and kids shouting and screaming. It's making me want to move house again, but thats not possible yet.

I've had noise cancelling earphones sugested to me, but have then been told that they cancel background noise but not speach, whats the point, thats what I don't want to hear? The other problem I have with headphones is that I have PTSD and if someone comes up behind me, I jump so bad I have a massive adreniline overload, followed by exhaustion and feeling upset, weepy and horrible for the rest of at least that day.

I dont' xpect anyone to be able to help, I just want to let off steam at feeling unable to use my garden on what has been one of the best days of the year so far weather wise.

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Octopuses.are.aliens 11 days ago

I relate, I find summer the hardest. For me its mostly that I don't do well with the heat it's probably my worst trigger and then all the bugs flying past my ears and the sun constantly presenting an overexposed world to me. I do relate to the noise though. Where I live in an apartment our communal garden backs onto the gardens of houses like a circle and we have a few houses here that will have smoke pits going, bbq's with music and children playing which usually sets off the dogs too. I usually find that my sleep schedule will invert in summer and I think this is mostly a defence mechanism for coping with all this. I can finally cool down overnight with all the windows open and then I close the curtains when the sun is up. It's hard when you gotta go out and get the groceries in and deal with the spontanous noise and increased flow of people everywhere because the kids are off. Sometimes I try to just isolate myself as much as possible during those six weeks but I don't advise this as a good thing to do.

The headphone thing - I own some Sony XM4's they are the previous model so you'll likely find these cheaper now I think they are on XM5's and maybe 6 now. It's hard to explain how they work but they can drown out the sound of my hoover whilst wearing them. They have three modes - noise cancelling, ambient sound which is basically white noise and nothing. I find for me if I combine the noise cancellation with playing music i'm golden.

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Octopuses.are.aliens 11 days ago

I relate, I find summer the hardest. For me its mostly that I don't do well with the heat it's probably my worst trigger and then all the bugs flying past my ears and the sun constantly presenting an overexposed world to me. I do relate to the noise though. Where I live in an apartment our communal garden backs onto the gardens of houses like a circle and we have a few houses here that will have smoke pits going, bbq's with music and children playing which usually sets off the dogs too. I usually find that my sleep schedule will invert in summer and I think this is mostly a defence mechanism for coping with all this. I can finally cool down overnight with all the windows open and then I close the curtains when the sun is up. It's hard when you gotta go out and get the groceries in and deal with the spontanous noise and increased flow of people everywhere because the kids are off. Sometimes I try to just isolate myself as much as possible during those six weeks but I don't advise this as a good thing to do.

The headphone thing - I own some Sony XM4's they are the previous model so you'll likely find these cheaper now I think they are on XM5's and maybe 6 now. It's hard to explain how they work but they can drown out the sound of my hoover whilst wearing them. They have three modes - noise cancelling, ambient sound which is basically white noise and nothing. I find for me if I combine the noise cancellation with playing music i'm golden.

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