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need reassurance

k3llogs

hi, my son is 4 in 2 months, he has terrible speech and undergoes speech therapy, he has an audiology appointment in a weeks time to check its not his ears at fault.

i have been told several times in his life to have him checked for aspergers because of his strange habits and tendencies. i have always put this down to him being a boy and my family have only ever dealt with girls, not being able to deal with him.

although recently ive noticed more and more things about him that make him stand out from his peers. 

-he has an obsession with toy story, everything he does is toy story related, and has been for about 2 years

-he wont wear shoes unless they are wellies

-he headbangs violently to sleep

-he kisses and cuddles everyone and doesnt understand or back off it they dont want it

-he gets very upset and anxious if i leave him at all, especially without warning

-he doesnt make eye contact for more than a second and thats if i ask him to

-he hates loud noises

his intelligence is hard to measure as his speech is so behind.

am i doing the right thing in getting his assessed or am i making a bigger deal out of these things than i should?

please, any advice will help me. 

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  • Hi k3llogs,s

     I have two boys diagnosed with the condition and when diagnosed I struggled to come to terms with it. I fought very hard for assessments that the LEA refused to do and eventually I had to contact independant practicioners for private assessmen to get things moving. Like you I went through basic assessments first, Hearing and sight, which helped eliminate as well as isolate the funimentals. Learning that my sons could hear was as important as it would have been had they been found to have hearing difficulties and likewise with sight, as it meant that there absobtion to the extent that they didn't respond, was not due to deafness or fixation due to visual difficulties.

    I'm not sure where you live or what the services are like in your region, but my advice would be to proceed. As a mother, if your gut reation is that something isn't right, go with it. Many will cause you to doubt your concerns, but you know your son best. Bare in mind that if he is diagnosed, early intervention is key and also that diagnosis often takes many years and all the time that slips by will be time lost by way of support or any intervention he needs.

    I've always found that private assessment is quickest, but your LEA and primary trust will also want to assess various areas. Key assessments are conducted by Educational Psychologists, speach and language therapists, and Ocupational therapists. Try and get all if you can the more infomation you have the better.

    I hope I haven't alarmed you, but for your peace of mind I think you are on the right track. If I can be of any help with the process please ask.

    I wish you well, Cooybear.

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  • Hi k3llogs,s

     I have two boys diagnosed with the condition and when diagnosed I struggled to come to terms with it. I fought very hard for assessments that the LEA refused to do and eventually I had to contact independant practicioners for private assessmen to get things moving. Like you I went through basic assessments first, Hearing and sight, which helped eliminate as well as isolate the funimentals. Learning that my sons could hear was as important as it would have been had they been found to have hearing difficulties and likewise with sight, as it meant that there absobtion to the extent that they didn't respond, was not due to deafness or fixation due to visual difficulties.

    I'm not sure where you live or what the services are like in your region, but my advice would be to proceed. As a mother, if your gut reation is that something isn't right, go with it. Many will cause you to doubt your concerns, but you know your son best. Bare in mind that if he is diagnosed, early intervention is key and also that diagnosis often takes many years and all the time that slips by will be time lost by way of support or any intervention he needs.

    I've always found that private assessment is quickest, but your LEA and primary trust will also want to assess various areas. Key assessments are conducted by Educational Psychologists, speach and language therapists, and Ocupational therapists. Try and get all if you can the more infomation you have the better.

    I hope I haven't alarmed you, but for your peace of mind I think you are on the right track. If I can be of any help with the process please ask.

    I wish you well, Cooybear.

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