Published on 12, July, 2020
Hey everyone
I started therapy last Friday as I wanted an honest opinion about if I should pursue an assessment for ASC. I have been very up and down about if I should and really couldn’t figure out if I deserved a place in the que for an assessment. My son is neurodivergent and I share a ridiculous amount of traits with him as well as us both understanding each other completely. I felt guilty because I didn’t want to take a spot for assessment from someone else really and that made me feel awful. I had an initial 30 min conversation with my therapist who is neurodivergent herself as well as her entire family and I knew from that 30 mins that she was the right choice. I definitely got my money’s worth for my first session as I just could not shut up and pretty much talked for the whole hour. I have never felt that chatty before as I never have that much to say. I came out from the session so elated and was even laughing for some reason?? I did jump around a bit going from one thing to another and gave myself a hard time afterwards as I felt like I might not have made much sense. I just wanted to ask the community for my next session should I just go with no intentions and see how it goes or should I be a bit more structured and prepare what I want to talk about? The last time I had therapy was 15 years ago for my panic attacks (to no avail) but I never felt like I connected with my therapist before, there is no surprise in that as even though I’m very friendly it’s very rare I do.
Thank you for listening
That’s really great you found a good therapist that you are satisfied with. I still couldn’t. The therapist I talked to last time did not understand me and what I actually feel. I felt gaslit. I struggle to find a good therapist (good for me, probably also neurodivergent). I think maybe you can discuss the plan for sessions with the therapist? Maybe you can ask her about it how the therapy should loook like. I think you can prepare some short list of topics you want to discuss (it may be helpful) but it’s better to not replay the possible flow of dialogue or monologue in your head (I know, easy to say hard to do), you can just be prepared for wandering off the topic. I have no idea where I can find a suitable therapist. While walking once I saw a quite big clinic with information that they specialise in Autism and ADHD as well as other conditions. But I somehow feel anxious about contacting them I also feel kinda guilt for possibly wasting someone’s time.
Hi Alienated
I found my therapist on Psychology today site, not sure where your from but I’m sure it covers the UK. You can type your area in there and it lists all local therapists along with a bio, pictures and what they specialise in. I rang 3 that I narrowed down and chose the one who I connected with. Like I said I found her to completely understand me like no one else ever has. Might be worth a try.
good luck and thank you for your interest