Hi, i have 4 boys, and my second son is 7.5 years old. I have always felt he was delayed in development. He has speech delay too. His motor skills are poor. He is bright in class and school have no concerns. Seems like i am seeing a different child to what they are. At home he has meltdowns, rages/tantrums etc. He makes up arguments which are not even there. If i ask him to be quieter he completely over-reacts and will scream and shout at me, saying i am ruining his fun. He seems very immature. He has no patience for anything, he doesn't like anything that takes time do complete. Such as hair cuts. Even toileting - he won't wipe himself as "it takes for a long time" as he says. He has to be first for everything, first in the line at school, first to the front door, first to the dinner table,first to finish his food. It concerns me that while all the other children will be playing in the playground, he will just be standing by himself in the "line" so he is first in to school. He finds it hard to make friends, i think he wants friends but he doesn't have any. When he does play with other kids, it only lasts for 5 minutes before he is back to me saying he doesn't like them. He has 3 brother's and when he plays rough and they get hurt he laughs, he seems to have little empathy. The only games he likes is computer games where he can race, or beat his own score. The only toys he plays with other than this is cars, which he lines up and doesn't move them, doesn't make sounds for them etc, he says they are racing but he hasn't moved them? He has played with cars like this since he was a toddler. He is very greedy with food, he will eat and eat and nothing tells him he is too full. He used to gag alot when he put too much in his mouth. He doesn't care that he will eat all his and his brother's treats for the week in once sitting (when i haven't caught him out) In fact he seems to smirk, like he's happy with himself. He also will eat all the yogurts in the fridge is he wakes up really early, he will eat 4 choc eclairs, more if there was any. all before i am awake.
He has no road sense at all and can't be trusted to walk the 5minutes to school on his own. He is very much interested in numbers and calendars, dates etc. He is obsessed with who's birthday is next too. Last birthday when he was 7, he woke up at 4am and opened all the presents id laid out for him - before anyone woke up. He thought nothing of this. He cannot dress himself properly either, he will think nothing of no underwear on under his trousers, or even having 2 pairs of socks or pants on, even trousers he has had 2 pairs on and doesn;t think anything of it. He has such poor motor skills he can't do his fly up either and i have picked him up from school when he has been holding his trousers up with his hand, ALL day! the teacher obviously doesn't help him either! He puts things on inside out, back to front. He wont clean his teeth, or face, i have to do this for him or it won't get done.
I am just rambling on here at whatever is entering my head, i am new to all this. Even though i have kinda always known. What does everyone think? I am waiting for a child psychologist appointment for him, which could take months, but i need some support now. I want to get him a diagnosis so he is supported properly.
