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Advice on son and family

Kasama

Hi

I'm seeing enough symptoms (and reconsidering past ones) in my 15 yr old son to put him on the diagnositic pathway for Asperger's.

I also am Asperger's.

I'd like some advice on this, please, in the following areas:

Before starting on the diagnosit path, he needs to be told of our suspicions. He is aware of my condition. Any pointers, shared experiences?

His siblings - 2 younger and 1 older - ya think they should be involved from teh beginning as well? If so, in what way? Bearing in mind too that my son might not be diagnosed.

They too are aware of my condition.

  • Hi Kasama,

    I have a 16 year old who I have known has a problem since he was tiny, as I have Bi Polar disorder I have been told on so many occassions its bad parenting, he's naughty, its because I'm ill, its because he's manipulative. Now at last he is being assessed and its very likely he has Aspergers, probably something else on the Autistic spectrum as well.

    I have a 14 year old daughter and I have always been honest to them both about my condition and now about my son's. As they have got older I have explained more details as they have better understanding the older they get. I ask if they have anything they want to ask me and I answer honestly but ensuring they don't worry. Just enough information til next time seems to work.

    I have told my son the doctor thinks he has Aspergers Syndrome and he was relieved as he knows he is different from his on line freinds ( he hasn't attented school for two years because of his problems) he never meets anyone socially but has an obssession with on line gaming. He said to me ' does that mean I'm not naughty? I'm poorly? ' As we know and he knows something can be done to help, we all cope alot better, his sister gets upset when she notices things my son should be able to do but can't, but I reassure her that he will get some help and at least there is a reason and she's not worrying and googleing for online diagnosis and coming up with all sorts.

    I think you should explain to your son what your fears are and reassure him that hes being assessed and explain that if has got Aspergers he can receive support. You could also focus on positives that you have experienced.

    My daughter asks if she might get Bi Polar as she is aware there is a family link, I am honest and say she has a higher risk but would she mind being like me??  She answers your the best mum and we have so much fun. when I'm high she says she has more fun with me than her freinds and that makes up for the times I'm low and she cares for me. 

    I hope this helps, good luck.

    jacks mum