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Is diagnosis as an adult worth looking in to?

Mason

I've come here to vent more then anything, I know there's little anyone can do to help, but it would be nice to air out some concerns and have an outsiders opinion. I can't talk to my family about my concerns because they wouldn't understand. I took the test someone posted up on a sticky and it came to 8 (over 6 meaning considered for referral) and I also took another online test found linked from the embarrassing bodies website and on that I got 33 and over 32 means possibly autism spectrum

I do struggle with social situations, ive always found it difficult and Ive learned to smile and nod in the right places most of the time but that can backfire. I can't talk in groups very easily and conversation can be difficult when just talking to one person. I think I talk about things others arent interested in and pick up on things they don't notice (and again have no interest in) I have to really make a conscious effort to stop myself from coming out with facts about a topic during a conversation because I don't think I'm supposed to. Then there's things like at work, I try to remember to say hello to my co-workers but I often forget and don't know if I come off rude, same with saying goodbye to them too, I only say it in response if they say it to me. I also don't know what to say in certain situations for example a friend at work hurt her foot and I tried to be sympathetic as I know I'm supposed to and said "oh no" or sometching like that and she came back at me with "you couldn't be more sarcastic there could you" I then explained that I wasn't being sarcastic and I do care, but I don't always know how to express it.

I don't like doctors and I make a point of avoiding them at all costs and I couldn't go to him with this issue because I feel too embarrassed, it's probably nothing anyway and he'll think I'm an idiot. I sort of think, I am who I am and knowing can't change that and I've gone 27 years being who I am so I'll just have to deal with it. But it did cause problems in my last job and I ended up losing my job and then my flat and having to move back home to my parents house. That was mostly because the chef at the restaurant where I worked washing dishes at the time didn't like it when I was quiet and if I forgot to greet him or didnt join in the conversations, he thought I was in a mood when i wasn't I just didn't have anything to say, and then after time with him bullying me I developed a bit of an attitude with him when he was nasty to me and he didn't like it. The other problem it's causing is I'm 27 and never had a proper boyfriend because I just don't know how to talk to people, it gets me down and i get depressed but then when I think about it, I couldn't imagine having someons else in my space and not being able to do what I want all the time. its a difficult one and it would be good for me to know why I am the way I am, but I don't think I can fight to find it out and I know it would be a fight for it. 

What's the general view of being diagnosed as an adult, do people think it's worth it or is self diagnosis enough (I cope in life anyway so I wouldn't get any help from the doctors either way)

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  • From previous online questionaire-type tests I've always rather consistently come out as being a cadidate for ASD but I've always sort of shrugged it off as being something that I can't really do anything about and being something as more of a quirk of myself then anything else. Very recently however I've had some significant difficulties arise in my personal life that thinking about them I can see how the social difficulties I have with interacting with people have played a massive part and I'm wondering whether it's time to take this a bit more seriously, I've carried out an AQ10 assessment form and scored 8 which would suggest that I should probably do something about getting a referral.

    Where I'm struggling however is that I'm scared that getting diagnosed (if that were to be ultimate outcome) would adversely affect my life - particularly in a career sense. My current employer would likely be as sympathetic as the law requires but given the nature of the environment here (which can be quite cruel and mean) and the seeming inability of people to keep even the most personal of details secret. So I guess the question is whether I would be required to disclose any diagnosis?

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  • From previous online questionaire-type tests I've always rather consistently come out as being a cadidate for ASD but I've always sort of shrugged it off as being something that I can't really do anything about and being something as more of a quirk of myself then anything else. Very recently however I've had some significant difficulties arise in my personal life that thinking about them I can see how the social difficulties I have with interacting with people have played a massive part and I'm wondering whether it's time to take this a bit more seriously, I've carried out an AQ10 assessment form and scored 8 which would suggest that I should probably do something about getting a referral.

    Where I'm struggling however is that I'm scared that getting diagnosed (if that were to be ultimate outcome) would adversely affect my life - particularly in a career sense. My current employer would likely be as sympathetic as the law requires but given the nature of the environment here (which can be quite cruel and mean) and the seeming inability of people to keep even the most personal of details secret. So I guess the question is whether I would be required to disclose any diagnosis?

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