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The long diagnosis process!

Sjw

Hi all 

im new here :) I have an 8 year old son who we suspect has high functioning autism and possibly ADHD. 

We are at the moment going through the long process of assessments etc. I just feel so angry as i've been telling the docs since he was 2 that he needed some help and I was turned away and belittled all the time, and now my poor boy is so confused and his confidence has taken a true battering! 

Today I told him to make his own way home (as he always does, we live in a small village) and a teacher who didnt know the routine told him he couldn't leave with out me and he thought she was going to keep him there forever and totally freaked out bless him. There was swearing and shouting and finally he did a runner. I was mortified when school phoned, but I find myself not confident in how to handle these situations as we have no idea on his prognosis and have been given zero guidance from the hospital. Luckily his school is amazing and I've had a look online and am kitting him out with a couple of worry bags (one for school and one for home). I just wondered how other people got through these times and just neleer to know I'm not alone on this. 

thanks :) 

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  • I just wonder if the teacher was thinking it through. After all, if the teacher is going to change a pre-determined arrangement, she has a duty to contact you to say she is detaining your son, otherwise you are expecting him home and would be worried if he didn't show.

    She might have just been tired or felt she should meddle, but I think she acted irresponsibly.

    But the school only phones when your son made a scene. Well aspergers or otherwise that's pretty frightening for any child who doesn't know why he's not being allowed to do what his mother has instructed him to do.

    Villages vary pretty widely, and yours might be a safe one to walk through, but also village communities necessarily have to take a hardier view of getting around, simply because of everyday practicalities.

    My image of villages in influenced by the ones I encounter walking through: no pavements or distances without pavements or even a safe grass verge. Or there is a pavement but some or more selfish individuals park on the pavement up against a hedge. Crazy road junctions with blind corners and locals particularly driving through way too fast because they think knowing the road makes them immortal. Or farm entrances with tractors and machinery moving blindly in and out, or farm dogs. But I'm just a townie that concludes that you village types are all mad crazy to live like that.

    Having said that I was living in a village when I started infant school, and we had to pass a row of houses where there werre squatters we were warned might be dangerous.

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  • I just wonder if the teacher was thinking it through. After all, if the teacher is going to change a pre-determined arrangement, she has a duty to contact you to say she is detaining your son, otherwise you are expecting him home and would be worried if he didn't show.

    She might have just been tired or felt she should meddle, but I think she acted irresponsibly.

    But the school only phones when your son made a scene. Well aspergers or otherwise that's pretty frightening for any child who doesn't know why he's not being allowed to do what his mother has instructed him to do.

    Villages vary pretty widely, and yours might be a safe one to walk through, but also village communities necessarily have to take a hardier view of getting around, simply because of everyday practicalities.

    My image of villages in influenced by the ones I encounter walking through: no pavements or distances without pavements or even a safe grass verge. Or there is a pavement but some or more selfish individuals park on the pavement up against a hedge. Crazy road junctions with blind corners and locals particularly driving through way too fast because they think knowing the road makes them immortal. Or farm entrances with tractors and machinery moving blindly in and out, or farm dogs. But I'm just a townie that concludes that you village types are all mad crazy to live like that.

    Having said that I was living in a village when I started infant school, and we had to pass a row of houses where there werre squatters we were warned might be dangerous.

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