Pros of Cat Ownership, Are They Worth it ?

Hello,

After a few failed attempt at medication, my psychiatrist has suggested that I get a cat for my overwhelming anxiety. I am 26, I live alone, and I believe I might need to stay this way. The idea of another living being in my home stresses me out. Granted, everything stresses me out. I do acknowledge the pros to petting/owning a cat :

- can reduce levels of cortisol

- can increase levels oxytocin, dopamine and serotonin

- sense of companionship

- unconditional love

- non-judgmental

- encourage playfulness

- might eat houseflies for you

- dusts secluded parts of your home

- being responsible for a pet also gives a sense of purpose

- probably more...

But I can't ignore the cons. Growing up, my mom used to breed show cats. She thought it would alleviate her own depression (it didn't). I understand these cons might only be relevant to me. But if anyone can relate to those cons, are the pros worth it ?

- affection: a cat, like any pet, needs affection and attention. As a result of my past, giving and receiving affection has become something very uncomfortable for me. And to a lesser extent with animals as well. And being always reluctant to give affection, I fear that living with me, might make any cat lonely, sad or unhappy.

- recluse: Though it does make my anxiety worse, I try my best to go outside in an effort to alleviate my depression. But having a lonely cat at home might give me a push in the wrong direction.

- missing items : people touching or moving my things makes me very anxious. This is why I would probably stress that any item, if left unsupervised, might get misplaced by becoming the cat's next toy. some cats even figure out how to open cupboards and drawers Crying cat face

- furniture: kittens sharpen their claws on furniture because they don't know any better, sad cats do it for attention, upset cats do it to exact retribution, some seem to do it just fo fun. All very stressful.

- vets: going to the vet is not only mandatory and expensive, but probably terribly stressful for me

- fur: picking an outfit is sadly already a pretty stressful endeavor for me, I fear adding cat hair to the mix might make it worse. Also, dust everywhere makes me anxious but with depression weighing me down, vacuuming often feels pointlessly exhausting. I fear that having fur everywhere everyday, will worsen my anxiety and depressed-motivation.

- smells: I am not hypersensitive to smells, but most animal smells do stress me out. even happy, healthy cats naturally throw up hairballs wherever. cats might urinate outside of litter boxes if they are unhappy (mine possibly) and some peculiar cats might do it if you don't clean the box right between each use. Moreover, where I live, in an effort to encourage citizens to recycle, it is illegal to throw out trash without a specific very expensive trash bag. I don't have anywhere to store trash outside of my appartement. Google approximates 6 liters of litter per cat per week. The smallest 'state' trash bag comes in 17L. That makes the soiled litter sit in my apartment for almost 3 weeks. Will the litter absorb that kind of smell?

- commitment: getting a cat is not like getting a pair of shoes. If I made a wrong choice, I can't just send it back or get a new one. I find it difficult to agree to do something a week later, because I don't know how bad my anxiety/depression will be next week. A cat lives 10 to 15 years.

Cats are great. But will my cat feel lonelier than cared for? Will my cat sooth more anxiety than it gives me? Am I just thinking too much? 

If someone shares the sames cons as me, are the pros worth it? What are your thoughts/experiences?

  • Hi- We had stray cats turn up and some stayed- Titou (or Mutzi) has been with us for years. I moved out since but Titou is still with my stepfather and I miss having a cat. I think it really depends on the cat - some demand more attention than others. Our cat was very low maintenance- she needed plenty of alone time, loved to be outside and not too much petting, didn’t particularly like to play. She was amazing though- when I was ill or upset she could tell and would come to my room and my bed. 
    My friend has a cat too that is much more demanding in terms of wanting to be played with etc.  
    I would say the cons are that if you like to travel etc you need to find someone to take care of the cat. For us the biggest con was that we lived near a busy road and we lost 2 cats that way - hit by cars. Luckily Titou is scared of a lot of things including roads.

    i think a cat is amazing when you are settled somewhere.

  • I have an indoor cat… and he is completely my best friend. I would be absolutely entirely lost without him. He is amazing company, comfort and distraction.

    I would suggest if you’re contemplating a cat getting one from a rescue where they would have got to know the cats personalities and you could try and find one that fit in with your lifestyle a bit more. For example finding a calmer more independent one may suit your concerns better.

    in my area we have a mobile vet who travels around and bring their van to outside your home and you just take your pet out to them. Maybe you may have something similar which would stop the need for actually physically going into a vet and having to deal with all the other people that you may encounter there. 

    my cat uses a litter tray and as soon as he has bin I scoop it out and put it straight in a doggy poop bag so there is no smell after it’s disposed of at all. Clumping cat litter means you can get all the wet bits in a clump so there’s no lingering smell. I don’t use anything like 6l of cat litter a week. 

    Cat fur does get everywhere. I know some breeds shed less. 

    A cat is a big commitment. Without question for me any positives outweigh the negatives. Only you know how well you would cope with certain aspects of it. I love my cat so just put up with the negatives as I feel it’s just part of him so it’s doesn’t bother me. It sounds like you’re properly thinking this through before making the commitment which is really good. 

  • I might have to look into one myself and / or for my mum.

  • Cats are unlikely to feel lonely with you. They live well with people but don't much like sharing space with other cats.

    Yes, cats are worth it, but let the cat pick you. 

    I had one special cat. He picked me. 

  • Hello,

    I love cats and understand your concerns. I wanted a cat but for many reasons, this was not possible so I went online and brought a robotic cat. No, it is not quite the same but it does purr and licks it paws which never fails to make me laugh. I do not have a litter or feeding issue and have yet to replace the battery's so maybe this would be the solution for you?

  • Selin,

    If you are a good and kind human, a cat will adapt to the life that you create WITH it.  In my opinion, if you are a nice human, successful and happy cat acquisition is easier than you think.  From what you have written, on balance, I think it might be the best thing you have ever done.

    I wish you well in any event.

  • If I made a wrong choice, I can't just send it back or get a new one.

    Or, it might be the best thing you ever do

  • Sometimes it’s an effort but having to look after him makes me move and get out of my own head.

  • I don’t think I’d want the responsibility of a cat even if I was allowed one. It’s one thing forgetting to eat or clean after myself it’s another not feeding a pet or cleaning up after it if it was a house cat.

  • I got a kitten, back in July. She's definitely worth it. It may take a while for the kitty to bond with you. But, once bonded, you're flying.

  • I'm sure some do, in the same way you meet people who hadn't dreamed of having kids their whole life but when it happens they find a love they didn't imagine. 

    It's just a very high risk. If you try to make friends but change your mind, maybe you hurt their feelings by breaking off contact. With a pet, you'd be either stuck with each other for years or you'd be dumping them at a shelter (who are always overloaded and in some cases put unwanted pets down).

  • You're right, it's true since I'm scared to make the cat (and myself) unhappy with this decision, I don't think I should get one. But I also know that I'm the type of person who gets scared of anything new. Same with people. I didn't want to talk to or spend time with anyone. Scared to hurt them and myself. But only after trying and experiencing the positive myself did I come to understand that my fears were exaggerated and it wasn't so bad that I shouldn't try to make friends. I'm not saying cats will be the same, but maybe it could be?

    And you raise another interesting point. I am not being sarcastic, this is a real question: do you need to love cats/dogs before getting one? Or do some people fall in love after getting one?

  • You seem like you don't really want one, and bringing a living being into your life just because your psychiatrist thinks it would help seems like it might not be good for you or the cat”


    I agree Tris, I was going to comment similar, the one sentence pros (some of which are a bit of a reach) and a paragraph per con makes me think that OP has already decided against it. It’s true a lot of people are calmed by pets but that doesn’t apply to absolutely everybody

  • Thanks ! Your and your friend's trials and joys with your cats were very useful to me. I tend to go crazy over improbable catastrophic scenarios, so seeing your good times along with some bad experiences helps me have a balanced perspective. I didn't think about foster cats ! What a great idea to reach a personal verdict, thank you !

  • Pets need a lot of love and care. You seem like you don't really want one, and bringing a living being into your life just because your psychiatrist thinks it would help seems like it might not be good for you or the cat. 

    I love my dog and he definitely helps me a bit in dealing with mental health stuff, but I wouldn't recommend it to someone who isn't like 99% sure that's what they want. 

  • I’ve always had cats. Cats and I understand each other in a way I’ve never had with humans.

    But my current cat is an indoor cat. He was a rescue who had never been outside and shows no interest in going out. I often feel guilty that his life is less expansive and interesting than my previous cats.

    But he is my little house mate and best friend. He cheers me up enormously and I wouldn’t be without him.

  •  I've owned pets my whole life, my cat is somewhere around 17 and still going strong -and so is his nuclear waste that he produces about half an hour after bedtime so I have to get up and change the litter. You can't flush the poo , and the urine smells in the litter are intense after 2 day so imho needs changing. If I didn't have an outside bin I wouldn't cope with the smell. Bicarbonate of soda in the bin may help tho. 

    Ty s a very easy cat, started out life inside and moved to outside when I got out of town. He likes attention, lap cuddles, to get into bed with me,  played with toys until recently, used to come when called to dispose of spiders for me. He's been to the vet I think 4 times in his life, and two of those were to get registered at new vets. He isn't accident prone and I'm good with medical stuff and he actually tolerates being bathed and everything so he is easy to treat if he scrapes himself. 

    however a friend's indoor cat goes regularly because she's a maniac and does parkour round the house and ends up hurting herself. Her owner is extremely stressed by vets and feels terribly guilty every time the cat does something daft. Lost track of how many times I've calmed her down over the cat. 

    Commitment... Well only you know how you are with that. For me the commitment isn't a problem. It's my normal because I grew up on a farm and animal care is in my blood I think. I'm one of those ppl that saves any animal in distress, and would go in a river after my dog (and have!) If anything having pets (I have a dog as well) keeps me safe, my commitment to them has honestly kept me alive. 

    Could you foster a cat for a charity to see how you get on? Then you do have the option to give them back, or keep them if you fall in love. Or volunteer at a sanctuary? I'm just wondering now I've written all that if first hand experience might be more useful. 

  • Cats need care and loving but in return they are very loving and sweet animals. They are lovely to cuddle with. They are fun, lots of fun actually and they help reduce anxiety and depression. 

    Some can be a little destructive but most will grow out if it. I've had my cat for five years and I've loved every second with him.

  • Unusually for me, I have virtually no hesitation in assuring you that, enabling a cat to join your life, will be the best decision you have ever made.

    Good luck.