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Help I don’t know if I made the right choice!

andi

Hey guys 

this isn’t technically autism related but I’m scared and confused. 

I have just tried ending things with my 3 year long partner. I’ve been getting help with my mental health and I’ve been advised that my relationship wasn’t healthy. It went on for a while and it began to sink in that it wasn’t. So I tried breaking things off last night. We live together so it was very difficult. I kept the blame on me. I’m now terrified. I feel like someone is resting a kettleball on my chest. He doesn’t want me to move back out but it’s his dads house and he’s meant to have his kids tomorrow. I said I don’t think it’s fair that I stay. I told him I was asexual and I don’t like sex he said we could still have a relationship with out it but I don’t think we can. He said he can’t believe he’s losing me. But he also can’t seem to understand that I don’t think things are working. He asked if we could just take a break and I go home or am i actually ending it? I said I wasn’t sure what I wanted but I don’t think I’m ready for a relationship right now. I don’t know if I want to ever be in one. I want to be friends with him 3 years is a long time. But he seems to want to pretend nothing has happened and that it’ll go back to normal. I don’t know if I’m making the right choice here please any advice? 

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  • He asked if I want to throw away 3 years just like that? And he said that he should have expected this because he’s cursed. He’s asked what’s the next steps I had already mentioned several times that I would go back to my aunts but he didn’t seem to want to accept that. So I asked what he meant he said well I want to know what the £&£@ you’re doing so I don’t come back and you’re not £&@£(?@ here! 

  • in reply to andi

    Charming. Personally I’d go to your aunts at least tomorrow while he has the kids and possibly for the weekend and see how you feel about things while you are there but I’m a male who has never had a relationship so what do I know?

  • in reply to Taltunes

    That was what the plan was I know it was my idea but all I’ve felt is like crying and throwing up. He’s my fisrt serious relationship so I’ve never been in this situation before I’ve been told it was but I’m not sure I’ve been thinking of it for a while but now I’ve done it hurts so much 

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  • in reply to Taltunes

    That was what the plan was I know it was my idea but all I’ve felt is like crying and throwing up. He’s my fisrt serious relationship so I’ve never been in this situation before I’ve been told it was but I’m not sure I’ve been thinking of it for a while but now I’ve done it hurts so much 

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