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Feelings of loneliness

Liddy Bird

Hi I’ve never been diagnosed with anything by a professional (never been to a physiatrist or anything) but I’ve been beginning to consider that I may be autistic. 
I wanted to share a thought I had and ask if anyone else has experienced the same kind of thing.

I had the thought that I feel more lonely in a house like a duplex in a city where It’s really noisy and you can hear many people outside, but I feel less lonely when I’m in a stand alone house that is quiet and farther away from any neighbors.. (In both situations I am physically alone) but I can’t figure out the words to explain it to my friend who is neurotypical.

In my mind its like when im in the duplex I can’t be freely myself and I’m more on guard. The stand alone house I feel safe and comfortable while I’m alone just to be my true self. But why does it feel like such loneliness when I’m alone in both situations.. and it sounds backwards. Anyway, does this resonate with anybody?

  • Hello,

    yes i can relate to what your saying 

    to me is sounds similar to the phenomen of people staying up late in the evenings to regain a sense of freedom and independence in their life when they can be alone and do things without being interupted or feeling watched by a society.

    Have you heard of this before?

    is it similar to the situation you are describing?

    Kind Regards 

  • I always feel lonely in places with lots of people. When I'm on my own, I never feel lonely. 

  • Yes, I once worked as effectively a consultant in effectively a client’s office. There must have been about 100 people in the office but I was just stuck in a corner to get on with what I was being paid to do. I think part of me yearned for the human interaction the other people in the office were having even if I might have struggled if I had had to interact with them for any length of time. If I am by myself however almost the last thing I think about is other people.