Don't be me

Before I continue, this is just a warning that this post will be lengthy, so you might want to bear this in mind if you are prone to eye strain, or struggle to digest and process large chunks of text. The silver lining is that if you happen to suffer from insomnia, this post might bore you enough to induce sleep. Wink

Just over a year ago, I plucked up the courage to register with an NHS dentist. It had been an awfully long time (many years) since I had last visited a dentist, and I knew there was plenty of dental work that would need to be done. In addition to a crown implant that had broken some years ago on the left-hand side of my top teeth, there's a chunk of tooth missing from one of the back teeth on the left-hand of my bottom teeth. That's just the start of it. After I had been contacted by the dental surgery to confirm that I had been registered as a patient, the next step was to obviously book an appointment. Unfortunately, during the time that had passed between initially contacting the dentist and being registered, I found myself in an emotionally bleak place and unable to motivate myself. Days turned into weeks, weeks turned into months, and I still hadn't got around to making an appointment. Sound familiar anyone? As things stand, I am currently waiting to be re-registered with the dental surgery I had previously registered with.

During the latter part of last week, I had been suffering from flare-ups of dental pain, but it had been manageable. Well, it had been up until the early hours of Sunday morning when the pain on the left-hand side of my mouth became excruciating. It (the pain) had spread up to my ear, and also down my lower jaw. In addition to taking paracetamol, I had been applying oral numbing gel to my gums, as they too felt rather sensitive. It helped, but not as much as I would have liked. After a good many hours, the pain did eventually subside for long enough to enable me to get some much-needed sleep. However, by Sunday night the pain intensified again and lasted for several hours.

There is a dental surgery (part of a large chain) a few miles away from where I live, which people seem to get signposted to when they are in need of emergency dental treatment, and they are either unregistered or in the process of registering with a dental surgery. Shortly after 9 o'clock on Monday morning, I phoned this dental practice and wasn't surprised to discover that the line was engaged. I kept redialling the number every few minutes, and after approximately 2 hours, I was finally able to speak to a human being. My relief was immense when I was offered an appointment for 4:20 pm that day.

As much as I absolutely dread going to the dentist, and as much as I dislike using public transport, there was no way I could tolerate any more excruciating flare-ups of dental pain. Whatever needed to be done was fine by me, as long as I didn't have to endure any further flare-ups of intolerable severe pain. Prior to setting off, I had applied medicated temporary fillings to my affected teeth, thinking that because it was medicated, it might help to keep the worst of the pain at bay and protect any exposed nerves during the journey. The journey to the dentist felt horrendous, as every bump and pot-hole only served to exacerbate my dental pain.

After arriving at the dental practice, I was required to complete some paperwork. This would have been fine if I had remembered to bring along my reading glasses. On the rare occasions that I venture out, I will make a point of wearing my distance glasses, but rarely does it occur to me to think that my reading glasses might be required as well. Fortunately, I had my son with me, so he was able to check that I had completed the paperwork properly and that my handwriting was decipherable.

Eventually, a dental nurse escorted me (and my son) into a room. With my son's help, I managed to explain my dental issues. She asked if she could take a look inside my mouth, not to do anything, but just to look. The dental nurse then disappeared to get someone else. Not a dental surgeon, but someone whose role was to simply count my teeth. Er, okay. This person and the dental nurse then disappear to get the actual dental surgeon. I am told that I won't be left in pain and that I will be given a prescription for antibiotics. It's explained to me that I cannot have any work done because if an infection is present, it can make the numbing effects of local anaesthesia less effective. Fair enough.

I am signposted to a nearby Tesco Extra with a pharmacy. Whilst I know there are some painkillers I am safe to take, there are others that aren't recommended. For example, because I take Levothyroxine for Hypothyroidism, it's advised that I steer clear of Ibuprofen because this can apparently cause bleeding in the stomach. I am told I can take Co-codamol, but as it can cause drowsiness and can also be addictive, the pharmacy assistant is of the opinion that I'm probably better off sticking with paracetamol. From my perspective, if Co-codamol causes me to feel drowsy enough to fall asleep, this will be a bonus because at least it will offer me some respite from my dental pain. I am sold the Co-codamol, and while I wait for my prescription to be dealt with, I exit the store to open the pack of Co-codamol and take one. After returning to collect my antibiotics, I then take one of those. The sooner it is in my system and can get to work, the better.

It had been shortly before 6:30 pm when my son and I arrived home. Less than an hour later, my son found himself having to physically restrain me. The pain was on a scale that I don't think I had ever previously experienced, causing me to thrash about uncontrollably and cry out in pain. Aside from worrying that I would do myself an injury, my son thought that all that thrashing around probably wasn't helping me with my toothache. He had mentioned something about blood flow. After about an hour, the pain eased off a little, only to flare back up less than thirty minutes later. This was the pattern until around 5 am on Tuesday morning, when I eventually managed to fall asleep.

Some hours later, I awoke feeling constipated and with a vile migraine affecting the right-hand side of my head, causing me to feel like it was highly likely I would be sick. Fortunately, I wasn't. I could feel my dental pain intensifying again, to the extent that it felt like the left-hand side of my mouth including my cheek, my ear, and my jaw were going to explode. It might sound counter-productive, but I decided to pick out the temporary fillings I'd applied the day before. Almost instantly, my dental pain returned to a more tolerable level, much like when a dental abscess has been drained, and the pressure that has been building up decreases.

After I have completed the course of antibiotics, I will need to return to the emergency dental practice to have at least two of my teeth extracted. As I'm a nervous patient, I cannot say I am particularly relishing the prospect. Not helping matters is that I have a small mouth, and even when I've been thoroughly numbed, I find it painful to open my mouth as wide as is required, for the duration required. As a result, I've had a good many dental surgeons politely ask me if I can open my mouth a bit wider because my mouth has started to close, and I have been inadvertently biting their hand. Oops!

The moral of this long-winded story is that if you're a nervous patient like me and absolutely dread visiting dentists, I urge you to face your fears and not to put off going, especially if you're in pain. The longer you leave it, the worse it will get, and the less chance there is of saving a tooth (or teeth) that requires attention. Do not be me and make the mistake of leaving it until a minor dental issue turns into something more problematic.

  • Hi Number,

    Yes, the Orajel I'd been using was max strength (extra strength) too. In my case, I found the numbing effect didn't penetrate deeply enough to really target the source of the pain, and the mild effect it had on me seemed to wear off rather quickly. I guess this is proof that what works for one person doesn't necessarily work for everyone. It has to be said that it's not exactly cheap to buy either, especially when one considers the minuscule size of the tube.

    I too hope my extractions go okay. The last time I had one, I ended up with a dry socket, so am obviously hoping history won't repeat itself. On a previous occasion, the process of extracting a decayed tooth hadn't been quite as straightforward as the dental surgeon had anticipated. He thought he'd got all of the tooth out, but a tiny fragment had been left behind resulting in a dental infection. Whilst it is hard to forget those unfortunate negative experiences, I am obviously trying not to dwell on them too much.

  • I am sorry to read of your breakdown, but I'm glad you mentioned the suggestion of sedation, as it is something I have often thought about in relation to myself.

    Whilst I am not needle-phobic, I find that depending on where I need to be numbed, it can feel incredibly painful when the needle containing the local anaesthetic breaks through the skin. If it results in bruising the skin, it can then feel painful when the anaesthesia starts to wear off. As I can have a low tolerance to pain, and have had some bad experiences in the past, I will usually stress the need for me to be fully numb, sometimes resulting in the dental surgeon injecting more than one dose of local anaesthetic from different angles. Of course, this increases the likelihood of bruising and pain afterwards.

    In addition, I can be so sensitive to pain that I've refused a scale and polish unless it can be done under a local anaesthetic. Of course, time is precious and the majority of dentists I've encountered have often pointed out that in the time it would take for me to be fully numbed, they could have got the job done.

    As the sound of dental drills can set me on edge, I think I may well ask if I can be sedated when I book the appointment for my extractions.

  • I'm a private patient, as I'm not on means-tested benefits. If I was, it would have been covered.

  • Sparkly,

    I know the pain you speak of.  Intolerable!

    Dentists are my nemesis too.

    I do hope your extractions go OK.  Having had two quite profoundly worrisome meltdowns at a dentist surgery in the past, when it became time for me to face an extraction, I arranged special provision for my "event.". They brought in a special dentist who was able to administer an non-standard "calming" drug (sorry, can't remember the name...but it was basically a date-rape drug of some description) to chill me out - prior to the extraction.  I think it was a wise move, for all concerned......but mainly for the safety of the dentist !!

    I wish you well.....but in the meanwhile, I can also tell you that I was VERY grateful for Oragel Max strength.  It is benzocaine = same stuff they use to numb you at the dentist.  You will get it from standard pharmacies.....but the "Extra Strength" version that has 20% of the active drug can be more of a hunt.  In my case, it was REALLY worth the hunt.

    Good luck mate.

    Number

  • It might be a bit late at this point, but because of my anxiety with dentists (I literally had a complete nervous breakdown last year and an upcoming standard dental checkup was one of the triggers) my dentist's given me referrals to have things done under sedation.

    It was only for a filling and an extraction the first time and a filling the second time, so most people are fine with just local but it was a lot more bearable for me doing it that way. You basically get the drugs in your arm and then you're conscious but not really there and then you just have a total blank during the procedure. I would highly recommend it for anyone who finds dental surgery terrifying and has a nice dentist (idk if he's the exception or the rule in being willing to make the referral for "minor" stuff)

  • Oh, thank you. I suspect what helped was that he too had found himself suffering from a dental infection only a few weeks ago. Whilst he had admittedly not been thrashing around in pain, he could relate to the feeling of utter desperation I had been experiencing.

    I am feeling a lot better now. Still in pain, but it's nowhere near as bad as it was. It's just a matter of being careful with what I eat and trying to avoid chewing food with the teeth on the left-hand side of my mouth. As a result of the pain now being at a tolerable level, it means I've been able to drastically cut down on pain relief medication, which I consider to be a good thing.

  • That's good to know Desmond. 

    The situation may have changed, but in my area, there were some dental practices that would only offer the services of a dental hygienist if one was a private patient. Admittedly, this is going back a good many years, so might not necessarily still be the case now.

  • I'll be taking the last of the antibiotics tomorrow. I have been advised not to leave it too long to book an appointment for a dental extraction, otherwise, it's highly likely I'll be right back where I started (in severe pain again).

    For some reason, I'd got it in my mind that dental surgeries could deregister patients if it had been more than 6 months since the patient had last made contact. Either way, it's good advice not to end up in a situation of being deregistered, especially as finding an NHS dental practice that is accepting new NHS patients can be incredibly difficult.

    If one is fortunate enough to register with an NHS dental practice, it can then be weeks until they are able to offer an appointment for an initial check-up. It's a sad state of affairs, but one cannot really blame them for going where the money is and seeming to favour private patients.

  • I cannot imagine, feel-free to relay to your son, that it’s not-difficult to admire his steadfastness in the face of a distressed-parent. I hope your feeling better.

  • It's a relief to know that your teeth are okay.

    Having experienced dental pain on numerous occasions throughout my life, it has to be said that the pain I was in earlier this week felt considerably worse than any dental pain I've previously experienced. To the best of my knowledge, it was the first time in my life when I'd been in so much pain that physical restraint was necessary. Admittedly, I had found it rather comforting and it helped to calm me down.

    I'm just thankful I had my son with me when I was experiencing the worst of the pain. He was so incredibly patient and understanding with me, despite feeling equally as exhausted as me.

  • I have a Dental Practice; with both a Dentist and a Hygienist.

    There, for the grace of God, go I.

  • That sounds horrendous and I hope you get it resolved soon.

    Can I add another general warning to everyone. If you are lucky enough to be registered with an NHS dentist make sure you attend at least once every two years. Otherwise they can deregister you without warning.

    The sole remaining NHS dentist in my area did this to many people, as they had not attended for check ups for two years during the pandemic (most of that time the practice was open for emergency work only). Of course the practice is quite happy to take back those patients on a private basis but are not accepting any new NHS patients.

    Many people have been left without a dentist and there are no dentists within a 100 mile radius currently accepting new NHS adult patients. I was lucky in that I had needed to attend for emergency work during the pandemic and therefore didn't get deregistered.

  • Wow.. luckily my teeth are okay.. but that’s sounds terrible..