Forcing exercise?

Hi, I wouldn't force her. There are so many ways she can exercise and it's important she enjoys it. If you are concerned about her back, can you maybe ask the orthopaedic surgeon if there are other ways to exercise that might be suitable? I think forcing her to go is just going to make her hate it and want to go even less. If you take off the pressure, maybe she'll want to go with you again eventually. 

I think it is good though when parents set a good example in terms of exercising (which you are doing by going swimming yourself regularly)- I wish I had been encouraged a bit more growing up- I did do lots of horse riding, but I wasn't fit at all otherwise and that made me quite frustrated (and fit in even less) and even when I wanted to become more active, I just had no idea how to go about it. I wish my parents had set more of an example there. I discovered my passion for hiking at 17 actually. I would have fallen in love it it sooner probably, but I was badly bullied on a school walking trip and that put me off from joining DofE earlier. But despite more bullying on a subsequent trip, I really fell in love with hiking and it is one of the things I love the most (even considered a hiking related career before I became injured)- I then started running and fell in love with basically all outdoor activities (except anything that involves going into water- I can relate a lot to not wanting to swim for various reasons) - It's a great way to also relax and reduce anxiety. Sadly injuries have stopped me from doing the activities I love for 3 years now. 

There are so so many fun sports and ways to exercise and be active, so maybe your daughter will find another activity she likes. Maybe suggest some alternatives, it could be as simple as going for a walk together. But there are so so many options and many of them don't involve groups :). 

Hi, I wouldn't force her. There are so many ways she can exercise and it's important she enjoys it. If you are concerned about her back, can you maybe ask the orthopaedic surgeon if there are other ways to exercise that might be suitable? I think forcing her to go is just going to make her hate it and want to go even less. If you take off the pressure, maybe she'll want to go with you again eventually. 

I think it is good though when parents set a good example in terms of exercising (which you are doing by going swimming yourself regularly)- I wish I had been encouraged a bit more growing up- I did do lots of horse riding, but I wasn't fit at all otherwise and that made me quite frustrated (and fit in even less) and even when I wanted to become more active, I just had no idea how to go about it. I wish my parents had set more of an example there. I discovered my passion for hiking at 17 actually. I would have fallen in love it it sooner probably, but I was badly bullied on a school walking trip and that put me off from joining DofE earlier. But despite more bullying on a subsequent trip, I really fell in love with hiking and it is one of the things I love the most (even considered a hiking related career before I became injured)- I then started running and fell in love with basically all outdoor activities (except anything that involves going into water- I can relate a lot to not wanting to swim for various reasons) - It's a great way to also relax and reduce anxiety. Sadly injuries have stopped me from doing the activities I love for 3 years now. 

There are so so many fun sports and ways to exercise and be active, so maybe your daughter will find another activity she likes. Maybe suggest some alternatives, it could be as simple as going for a walk together. But there are so so many options and many of them don't involve groups :).