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People Leaving Site.

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Just a thought more than anything, I find it quite hard when people leave the site, it’s sort of disturbing, it is as if my routine or expectations have been altered.

I understand that some people only join to get an answer to a specific question, others get to the end of their journey and decide it’s time to move on and some find it’s just not for them. I just find it very unsettling, it’s like my life is being altered without my consent. I obviously don’t blame anyone for leaving. Does anyone else feel this?

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  • I hate it when people leave. I get that sometimes they have to because of Life things or maybe they just feel they need to move on, but it's really hard when they're not here anymore.

    I've said it before and I mean this - I feel like all of us here are a little online family and I feel really sad when people aren't here anymore.

    There's been a lot of amazing people here, like there are now, it's horrible when they disappear. 

    Hopefully at some point old friends will pop back just to say hi. If I ever leave I'll defos do that ^^

  • in reply to Luna

    I think one of the sadnesses and major anxieties I’m always battling with is missing people even in advance. Like if I invest enough worry about their going in my day to day, it might magically slightly lessen the chances. It looks daft written down but it is a real battle for me. And I don’t expect it to work - people will go when they go, and my magical thinking does nothing. Maybe. Probably. Who knows? 

    Im already missing people who might have no intention of going anywhere any time soon. Or any time! But the future is unknowable and people change. I’m bad with change. And goodbyes. And overnight vanishing so without goodbyes. And… loss. I think that loss (expected and experienced) has been at the forefront of my mind for a good while of late especially. Everything hurts. Even fun feels like a trap - ‘but it will only wait for me to get complacent then they’ll go’. I’m like a child I suppose : why can’t we always be friends and play together? When the answer is… that’s not how life works. So why am I so bad at acceptance without emotional devastation? 

  • in reply to Shardovan

    It's strange - by continually bracing and arming ourselves for the worst, we make ourselves nervous wrecks.

  • in reply to Shardovan

    Well, it is with me this last day or so. Zero appetite when I get very sick with ‘the fear’

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