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Worried about 2yo daughter

liamw879

Hi I'm new here after finding this website on google.

My daughter is 2 years old and I'm not with her mother anymore. She had meningitis at 3 months old. So she has had every follow up check from hearing to speech since that time.

I didn't see my daughter for nearly 2 years afterwards. So I'm just getting used to seeing her more again on my own. Basically my concern is that she has autism and that I'm the only person to have recognised this!

I wrote a list of the things that I have noticein every time that I see her ranging from no eye contact to repeating the same nursery rhymes over and over.

I feel that I'm in a bad situation because her mother and me don't really get along and she never tells me anything. So does anybody know a way to go about it without arguments about how I'm wrong When really I'm very concerned and know it needs to be tackled early! 

Thanks x

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  • Hi - have you + her mother got anyone you both trust to act like a go-between?  I don't know if your daughter has autism or not, that would be decided after she'd been assessed.  Also she had meningitis so I don't know how that may have affected her in the longer term.  It is possible that her mother may have concerns, whether or not she tells you.  If you feel it would all end in arguing if you raised your concerns then analyse your relationship + see if you can approach things differently from usual in the hope it might avert the discussion deteriorating.  If you think that whatever you do, raising it will turn out badly, then perhaps making off the cuff remarks, such as mentioning how she doesn't make eye contact might open things up a bit.  You could ask if she looks directly at her mother, for example.  You could ask if her mother thinks your daughter might be shy.  Perhaps not mentioning autism first off might work better, to get a conversation going?

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  • Hi - have you + her mother got anyone you both trust to act like a go-between?  I don't know if your daughter has autism or not, that would be decided after she'd been assessed.  Also she had meningitis so I don't know how that may have affected her in the longer term.  It is possible that her mother may have concerns, whether or not she tells you.  If you feel it would all end in arguing if you raised your concerns then analyse your relationship + see if you can approach things differently from usual in the hope it might avert the discussion deteriorating.  If you think that whatever you do, raising it will turn out badly, then perhaps making off the cuff remarks, such as mentioning how she doesn't make eye contact might open things up a bit.  You could ask if she looks directly at her mother, for example.  You could ask if her mother thinks your daughter might be shy.  Perhaps not mentioning autism first off might work better, to get a conversation going?

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