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Gender Dysphoria

Tish

I'm 51 and was diagnosed with ASD at 49.

While discussing sexuality the other day, my daughters and I were trying to convince my (male) partner that transgenderism is a real thing and not a fad. During the conversation I said that when I thought about it I didn't feel specifically female, despite being assigned so at birth. The more I think about it the more I think that I am gender dysphoric. I have never felt particularly feminine, although I'm certainly not masculine either. If anything I think I've always thought that I'm a bit above all that! Does anybody empathise? I see that there might be a link between autism and gender dysphoria on this web site.

If I'm gender dysmorphic how could I not have noticed? I was shocked at my ASD diagnosis too, so is being wholly un-self aware an autistic thing as well?!

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  • My research digging does seem to indicate some overlap between the Spectrum and non-binary gender or sexual identity, just like it overlaps with being left handed or having Synesthesia. Maybe there's a reason I gravitate toward people whose sexual identities are different...some similarity of thinking otherwise than the norm, perhaps. Or just co-incidence? Dunno.

    Personally, it has always seemed to me that gender and sexuality are slidy scale things, not either /or things. 

    The word 'dysphoria' seems to suggest something dysfunctional or wrong. I really can't buy into that. Your sexuality and gender can be many things, mutable or fixed, lean one way or another or neither or both. Just take it as it is and express it as it is and enjoy. Nothing is amiss. Nothing is wrong. It doesn't need any existential crisis or a diagnosis or a shrink...just go with it :-)

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  • My research digging does seem to indicate some overlap between the Spectrum and non-binary gender or sexual identity, just like it overlaps with being left handed or having Synesthesia. Maybe there's a reason I gravitate toward people whose sexual identities are different...some similarity of thinking otherwise than the norm, perhaps. Or just co-incidence? Dunno.

    Personally, it has always seemed to me that gender and sexuality are slidy scale things, not either /or things. 

    The word 'dysphoria' seems to suggest something dysfunctional or wrong. I really can't buy into that. Your sexuality and gender can be many things, mutable or fixed, lean one way or another or neither or both. Just take it as it is and express it as it is and enjoy. Nothing is amiss. Nothing is wrong. It doesn't need any existential crisis or a diagnosis or a shrink...just go with it :-)

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