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is there any value in having a diagnosis

sparkle1968

My son aged 11, has increasingly obvious behaviour consistent with aspsrgers, is there any benefit to getting a diagnosis. A few examples- He couldnt understand why it wasn't ok to jump out on his brother at the top of the stairs, as his brother had surprised him in his bedroom earlier, he saw it as the same action.  Then could not understand why he was told off. The whole Margaret Thatcher,  witch song has him confused,  as I have to explain she wasn't actually a witch, even though he knows they are fiction. Also he struggles with simple things, if I ask him to put on a long sleaved top, to him sweaters, junpers, fleece etc are not ling sleaved tops, as this is not their name.  He is ver intuitive and bright, great at solving a problem and fantastic at art. His self esteem is very low, we go to great lengths to build him up, and one thing can push him backwards, and he will occasionally hit himself when he struggles or gets things wrong. should we get help and assessment or just carry on as we are. Anyine in a similar situation. Thanks

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  • Hi Sparkle,

    i am no expert but on reading about your son he does seem to be showing signs on traits of aspergers.  My son is six and has aspergers although not officially diagnosed yet.  His teachers raised the possibility first when he started primary school.  All the behaviour you have mentioned is very similar to my son.

    Have your sons teachers not raised any concerns?  They can start the ball rolling for an assessement if wanted, or your GP.

    I have not had my son assessed as i am told his needs are being met at the moment and he needs no extra care or help at school ( a very small school). I have been told that all that would be gained at the moment in having my son assesed is an "answer" to his behaviour and i would be able to contact local support groups?!

    Well i have finally accepted he has aspergers, he copes at school, i have this site for support , so for me there is no point in getting him assessed, he will not gain any extra help from it at the moment, possibly when he starts high school or if his behaviour got worse causing him stress then i  may reconsider.

    I think you should chat to the head teacher at his school first and see what they say?  Some children with Aspergers need extra help at school if your son is not one of these children and he hides his traits well as my son does, they will not give extra help at school and the main reasons then for a diagnosis would be peace of mind for you, to finally know the answer to his behaviour.

    Puffin

     

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  • Hi Sparkle,

    i am no expert but on reading about your son he does seem to be showing signs on traits of aspergers.  My son is six and has aspergers although not officially diagnosed yet.  His teachers raised the possibility first when he started primary school.  All the behaviour you have mentioned is very similar to my son.

    Have your sons teachers not raised any concerns?  They can start the ball rolling for an assessement if wanted, or your GP.

    I have not had my son assessed as i am told his needs are being met at the moment and he needs no extra care or help at school ( a very small school). I have been told that all that would be gained at the moment in having my son assesed is an "answer" to his behaviour and i would be able to contact local support groups?!

    Well i have finally accepted he has aspergers, he copes at school, i have this site for support , so for me there is no point in getting him assessed, he will not gain any extra help from it at the moment, possibly when he starts high school or if his behaviour got worse causing him stress then i  may reconsider.

    I think you should chat to the head teacher at his school first and see what they say?  Some children with Aspergers need extra help at school if your son is not one of these children and he hides his traits well as my son does, they will not give extra help at school and the main reasons then for a diagnosis would be peace of mind for you, to finally know the answer to his behaviour.

    Puffin

     

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