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is there any value in having a diagnosis

sparkle1968

My son aged 11, has increasingly obvious behaviour consistent with aspsrgers, is there any benefit to getting a diagnosis. A few examples- He couldnt understand why it wasn't ok to jump out on his brother at the top of the stairs, as his brother had surprised him in his bedroom earlier, he saw it as the same action.  Then could not understand why he was told off. The whole Margaret Thatcher,  witch song has him confused,  as I have to explain she wasn't actually a witch, even though he knows they are fiction. Also he struggles with simple things, if I ask him to put on a long sleaved top, to him sweaters, junpers, fleece etc are not ling sleaved tops, as this is not their name.  He is ver intuitive and bright, great at solving a problem and fantastic at art. His self esteem is very low, we go to great lengths to build him up, and one thing can push him backwards, and he will occasionally hit himself when he struggles or gets things wrong. should we get help and assessment or just carry on as we are. Anyine in a similar situation. Thanks

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  • Thank you for replying. A few more details, things he does genuinly did not understand

     asked him whats it like in the back (new car). Just can not grasp what I'm asking

    If having a shower, can not work out what to use. Lots of tears and distress. He has to have his own things and gets upset if anything changes. 

    could you live with yourself you hurt someone. No idea what I'm talking about

    choose a long sleeved top to wear. Massive confusion and crying, as cant decide 

    hurts himself when confused. Hits head, or pinches himself

     I have to cut labels out of things as they hurt him. Would not wear junior school uniform as the logo hurt him. Assumed it was exzema. 

    Focuses on the details can not see the bigger picture. At a wedding in the summer, he could see the bride was struggling with her dress, and just went and helped her. During the speeches, he couldn't hear, and very loudly told me he couldn't here, and that the person was talking to quietly. 

    has hyper mobility  and shoe insoles, so always ran awkwardly and hated walking, but this can be explained by physical reason

    obsesive about anything he collects. Can recite all Pokemon names, charecteristics etc but only just managed to teach him the months of the year. Through repetition every day . 

    Brilliant at art, copying things. Great with detail, but can not express any emotion. Does not see that anything is beautiful ie a flower tree, it just is what it is.

    does well in maths in middle group, but struggles to write things down. 

    he was on school action until year five, now year 7. His history teacher, has noticed that nstead of writing he answers questions by drawing.

    Friends wise, he does not have any friends that he would call a best friend, but he does fit in. Mainly because he good at drawing, and will happily draw things for people.

    He struggles to talk to people, with one word answers even to his grandparents. How are you xxxx, answers Fine or fine thank you if we are lucky. He is bright though, in so many other ways. As a young  child he showed no emotion towards us. Now we get hugs and I love you, which are very genuine at bed time.

    Terrible temper, will throw things or hit himself.  We try and boost his confidence by sending him to an art teacher. And give praise often

    physically has mild asthma, excema, hyper mobility of joints. One hand has a single Palmer crease. He goes through phases of clicking making strange noises, which hugest worse if you try to correct. 

    Hope that answers your questions 

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  • Thank you for replying. A few more details, things he does genuinly did not understand

     asked him whats it like in the back (new car). Just can not grasp what I'm asking

    If having a shower, can not work out what to use. Lots of tears and distress. He has to have his own things and gets upset if anything changes. 

    could you live with yourself you hurt someone. No idea what I'm talking about

    choose a long sleeved top to wear. Massive confusion and crying, as cant decide 

    hurts himself when confused. Hits head, or pinches himself

     I have to cut labels out of things as they hurt him. Would not wear junior school uniform as the logo hurt him. Assumed it was exzema. 

    Focuses on the details can not see the bigger picture. At a wedding in the summer, he could see the bride was struggling with her dress, and just went and helped her. During the speeches, he couldn't hear, and very loudly told me he couldn't here, and that the person was talking to quietly. 

    has hyper mobility  and shoe insoles, so always ran awkwardly and hated walking, but this can be explained by physical reason

    obsesive about anything he collects. Can recite all Pokemon names, charecteristics etc but only just managed to teach him the months of the year. Through repetition every day . 

    Brilliant at art, copying things. Great with detail, but can not express any emotion. Does not see that anything is beautiful ie a flower tree, it just is what it is.

    does well in maths in middle group, but struggles to write things down. 

    he was on school action until year five, now year 7. His history teacher, has noticed that nstead of writing he answers questions by drawing.

    Friends wise, he does not have any friends that he would call a best friend, but he does fit in. Mainly because he good at drawing, and will happily draw things for people.

    He struggles to talk to people, with one word answers even to his grandparents. How are you xxxx, answers Fine or fine thank you if we are lucky. He is bright though, in so many other ways. As a young  child he showed no emotion towards us. Now we get hugs and I love you, which are very genuine at bed time.

    Terrible temper, will throw things or hit himself.  We try and boost his confidence by sending him to an art teacher. And give praise often

    physically has mild asthma, excema, hyper mobility of joints. One hand has a single Palmer crease. He goes through phases of clicking making strange noises, which hugest worse if you try to correct. 

    Hope that answers your questions 

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