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Fast Thinking vs. Slow Thinking

JuniperFromGallifrey

Curious if anyone else has the same experience.

Daniel Kahneman's book, "Thinking Fast and Slow" https://www.neurosciencemarketing.com/blog/articles/thinking-fast-slow.htm talks about instinctual processing vs. a more deep logical reasoning.  I am wondering if there is a link between autistics default mode being a little more locked into this second system of reasoning. 

I took a logic course which changed my world quite a bit. It didn't help with social nuance, but I could better read books on social nuances. And then I started discovering other tools of reasoning which, like learning the discipline for any natural talent, created a huge shift in my daily life. As a child/teen I had been told I was accident prone, had bad 'timing', I felt as though I lived in a permanent fog. I felt withdrawn but had trouble focusing.

Once I learned communication techniques to stop other humans 'rushing' or interrupting me, learned to afford a moment to breathe (improv or yoga skills), tools and rules to slowly process and think-through a thing, learned to be conscious about aesthetics (I don't need extra anything, just one of the right thing -making me a terrible 'consumer') I discovered I had been held back from my true state of being my whole childhood. I began to feel more natural and function a little more 'fluidly' day to day. However, my natural state IS slower more logical reasoning. I had simply been in a state of severe stress most of my life. The more I allowed myself to live in this state, the easier things have been. Though I still have trouble with social exchange and identifying when defence mechanisms are necessary.

My ex constantly would get upset if I started discussing what he considered a "deep" problem too early in the morning. Friends who are not close but closer than acquaintances have sometimes responded on repeat, 'you know most people don't think like this'. Because while deciding to be true to my inner core / being, I hadn't considered this wasn't normal.  

Does this resonate with anyone else? 

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  • I watch people train dogs in the park.    They are always impatient because they are on a time crunch - gotta be back home to cook tea or something so the dog isn't given the individual time it needs to understand at its own pace.      The poor confused dog gets shouted at and dragged home having not learned a thing.

    I believe humans are exactly the same - some brains work at high speed, some need more time - and you can't rush it.

    Deep conversations in the morning are a sign that your brain was wanting to do it the night before - it took all night before the final words popped out.

    I'm like that - you can get very random conversations from me at any time - I've learned to add a disclaimer to the front of the conversations to prepare the listener to either sit or run!  Smiley

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  • I watch people train dogs in the park.    They are always impatient because they are on a time crunch - gotta be back home to cook tea or something so the dog isn't given the individual time it needs to understand at its own pace.      The poor confused dog gets shouted at and dragged home having not learned a thing.

    I believe humans are exactly the same - some brains work at high speed, some need more time - and you can't rush it.

    Deep conversations in the morning are a sign that your brain was wanting to do it the night before - it took all night before the final words popped out.

    I'm like that - you can get very random conversations from me at any time - I've learned to add a disclaimer to the front of the conversations to prepare the listener to either sit or run!  Smiley

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  • in reply to Plastic

    My mind is always contemplating something it seems. Some of the philosophy I'm studying right now actually helps me re-focus or I start trouble-shooting / problem solving everything on the news, everyone I know... I've gotten better at realising when I'm launching into all the complexities of a global sized dilemma and have lost the other. In fact, much of what I've studied over the years has just been to try and work out what was 'wrong' with me though the philosophy, psychology, sociology, etc. still seemed incredibly interesting. I'm still randomly blown away by things. Someone tweeted today about being purposefully contrary. I don't think it was new information but I felt stunned.