Selective Mutism - any advice?

Hello everyone,

My eight year old daughter is soon to be assessed for ASD and I expect there will be a diagnosis of ASD/Aspergers.

One of the most significant problems she faces is selective mutism.  She is terrified of talking to people she doesn't know well (i.e. everyone except parents, brother and one friend she made at her old school).  Even Grandma/Grandad have trouble getting her to speak, although she speaks freely with her immediate family.  Everything I've read suggests it's an anxiety response and she is extremely self-conscious in general.  With us though, she's a different girl - happy, funny and giggly a lot of the time.  She'll occasionally be like this with others, but it's fleeting and never seems to last.

Anyone got any ideas for how to help?  I've read a lot about selective mutism unrelated to autism, but the strategies there suggest something more of a pure phobia about speaking.  With my daughter, I think it's different - it's anxiety about social communication (not surprisingly)...  I'm worried it could get worse, but don't know how to stem the tide of any regression (mercifully, she just recently started talking to her childminder again who she goes to once a week, but I've been worried there's been a general regressive trend lately, aside from this).

Any ideas would be very welcome.  Autism-related literature on the subject is thin on the ground - or I'm looking in the wrong places....

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  • Sorry to jump in on this thread! I am so grateful to have found this thread as you are describing our dd2 who's 5! she's been diagnosed with autism and selective mutism, we are just relieved cause the drs have jumped around so many diagnosis, and now we've gone private, we have ffinally got of this roundabout. Our dd is home educated as school is not an option for her, and her siblings are home educated as well, and its really helped her :) 

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  • Sorry to jump in on this thread! I am so grateful to have found this thread as you are describing our dd2 who's 5! she's been diagnosed with autism and selective mutism, we are just relieved cause the drs have jumped around so many diagnosis, and now we've gone private, we have ffinally got of this roundabout. Our dd is home educated as school is not an option for her, and her siblings are home educated as well, and its really helped her :) 

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