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My EMDR therapist is not listening to me

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I got diagnosed with PTSD during the first lockdown due to me being abused into being more neurotypical in school and college, homophobic behaviour from a sexual health professional and other types of abuse in school and college (both special school and mainstream).

I am currently having EMDR therapy but I do not enjoy it, I always dread the sessions and I find it really hard even though I have agreed to 4 more sessions as I've already had 6 and already want to stop. 

Why? Because the therapist is denying I have an intellectual disability (when part of the abuse was to get me to use advanced language skills that I still don't understand), they are giving me 'function labels' when they should know that is damaging, saying I don't appear autistic when I don't even mask and saying I'm very good at 'processing' when I'm really struggling with it . I am very disgusted by what they have been saying, I feel let down, not listened to and I never thought a therapist would be so judgemental. I feel they are not helping me. 

I might be made redundant from my job due to covid which I did tell them about but they said supported employment services are 'not appropriate' because they're denying I have learning difficulties  and truth be told, Mencap's employment support services helped me get my current job so I personally don't agree with them. 

I really don't want to do it anymore, maybe I'm being 'function labelled' because I am too nice. I maybe need a different therapist, all they're doing is making my life so depressing. 

Please help, I don't know what to say to them. 

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  • The main issue here seems to be your therapist, and them not listening to you. That's shocking! This sounds like psychiatric services from the 60/70s, and a repeat of exactly the experience you originally had and are getting treated for. Sadly there's some really bad therapists out there, including those that come down the medical, psychology, psychiatary route which tends to be where EMDR ones train. I'd stop. You should never have to do something you're unhappy with. Go straight back to whoever referred you.

    I got referred to a specialist medical consultant once at the hospital. He was shockingly homophobic. I was so upset I really really didn't want to go back, but it was important (cancer scare). My said she'd heard he had some issues so she immeciately referred me to a different hospital.

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  • The main issue here seems to be your therapist, and them not listening to you. That's shocking! This sounds like psychiatric services from the 60/70s, and a repeat of exactly the experience you originally had and are getting treated for. Sadly there's some really bad therapists out there, including those that come down the medical, psychology, psychiatary route which tends to be where EMDR ones train. I'd stop. You should never have to do something you're unhappy with. Go straight back to whoever referred you.

    I got referred to a specialist medical consultant once at the hospital. He was shockingly homophobic. I was so upset I really really didn't want to go back, but it was important (cancer scare). My said she'd heard he had some issues so she immeciately referred me to a different hospital.

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