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Is it best to tell student peers from the offset or wait?

delicate flower

My daughter starts Circus College next week :-) a huge deal for her and we are so proud.

P has an abundance of anxieties about starting from being scared to eat in front of people to coping with a whole day and how to make friends.  Then list goes on......

Friendships has always been a struggle and she feels this could be her moment to meet like minded, quirky individuals who will "get her".  My question to you is should she and if yes how should she let her group know about her being Neuro Diverse from the offset?  P is desperate for people to like her, not judge her, understand her and have actual friends (something that's not happened yet).

Appreciate any support you can offer

Cherry blossom

  • If I were her, I would wear a few clues, eg wristband and or T-shirt/Hoodie with something to do with ASD/Aspergers. That might be a topic of conversation??? I wouldn't necessarily tell everyone, not unless she puts her foot in something Slight smile

    I managed to survive University by picking a few close friends (I didn't bother with any clubs) I spent my time at University practising small talk and the casual "Hello" to people. It's worth making the effort.

    Just remember that most Universities offer a "Mentor" for those with ASD and you need to apply for a Government grant. My son who has Asperger's at Durham, gets about £2500 disability allowance for his Asperger's, this is used by the University to pay for support and a Mentor'

    We keep telling our son, University should be the best days of your life and it pains us that he doesn't have any friends at Durham (as far as we know) and keeps to himself. He still relies on his school/college friends at the holidays for a social life, when at home.

    Hopefully, she will find a few like minded close friends for life ??