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Predicting conversations...

AlwaysIS

Hi

Ive had an epiphany!

This ability ive had, (or rather, what i have now come to realise is part of my coping mechanisms,) of almost knowing ,to an 80-90% accuracy and at times 100%(at these times ,it almost feels psychic -i'll address this later)

Of being able to know what the answers will be from the person im talking to....Its like im working on probability and studying the general zeitgeist....the programming and general urban shared conversations people generally have..The NT claptrap and bs if you will..

Im pondering on whether its a major part of the fatigue  that i experience whilst engaging with people....

Some people i feel slightly catch on(after numerous dealings with me, though they dont really know what it is...but i get a sense that they get a sense that im studying them...which i am...lol

Ive had comments like " you look at people as if youre looking through them" " or you have a knowing look"..

Not saying this is a benefit to myself.....as ive seen others do it to myself...and its an uncomfortable feeling.

What im struggling to say is....I think its a technic that involves a massive amount of cognitive processing..hence the headaches and weirded out feeling...Plus the boredom factor of knowing what the chat is going to be.,,UNLESS....someone actually speaks for real...and talks about a hobby or interest....then its different..

Just wondered if anyone will get what i mean?

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  • I see where you're coming from - I find dealing NTs to be very tiring because of having to process their speech on many different levels in parallel - there's the actual words they say, the hidden meanings in what they're saying and the politics and agenda behind the conversation and trying to work out what they are deliberately *not* saying.

    I know I make them uncomfortable - especially when they are trying to BS me,       I am told I am like a terrible mirror.    I reflect back the truth so nice people see a nice version of themselves - liars and fakers see a horrible caricature version of themselves reflected - and I can see the discomfort in their eyes.     They don't like the real self-image.       They can see just how sh** they really are.

    Talking with other Aspies is easy - there is only one level - what you see is what you get.   Smiley

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  • I see where you're coming from - I find dealing NTs to be very tiring because of having to process their speech on many different levels in parallel - there's the actual words they say, the hidden meanings in what they're saying and the politics and agenda behind the conversation and trying to work out what they are deliberately *not* saying.

    I know I make them uncomfortable - especially when they are trying to BS me,       I am told I am like a terrible mirror.    I reflect back the truth so nice people see a nice version of themselves - liars and fakers see a horrible caricature version of themselves reflected - and I can see the discomfort in their eyes.     They don't like the real self-image.       They can see just how sh** they really are.

    Talking with other Aspies is easy - there is only one level - what you see is what you get.   Smiley

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