My husband says that he feels angry and has suicidal thoughts, for which he is receiving support from his autism support worker. Any advice would be much appreciated.
We got married a few months ago and when I try to talk about health, housing or finances my husband is upset to the point of tears and tells me that he feels angry and has suicidal thoughts.
We've only really had to discuss health, housing and finances in the last few weeks as I have been suffering with anxiety, our house has proved to be not weatherproof in winter and I have run out of savings.
I gave up my employment to move close to where my husband works as he felt that his Asperger's was a barrier to finding a new job and did not want to move. But he refuses to share finances and I've recently had to resort to a food bank after my savings ran out. I haven't been able to find new jobs equivalent to full time and I've given up trying to talk to my husband about money because of his resulting angry feelings and suicidal thoughts.
Our house is rented and the property owner refuses to do any repairs. I'm staying with family nearby overnight for the sake of my physical health but my husband refuses to move and says that our marriage is in danger because we are apart, as well as telling me about his angry feelings and suicidal thoughts. Now I just say "I'm fine" if he asks how I am.
I've become ill with anxiety and depression about my finances and housing situation. I didn't expect to be so ill, uncomfortable at home, lonely, underemployed and starving when I got married. Me being ill is another thing that triggers angry feelings and suicidal thoughts in my husband. I'm anxious about his mental health and so feel I can no longer tell myself that it's all down to the Asperger's and we just need to communicate differently and things will be okay.
