Fighting a loosing bettle help pls

Hi I was so relieved when my son was diagnosed with autism and adhd, considering when he was 18months old I asked my health visitor if he was autistic. It has  been a very very long road to diagnosis.

His psychiatrist diagnosed him then refered him to tier 2 cahms, he has recieved no help from anyone but the school since diagnoses. One night he was having a very major meltdown and he was swearing badly at me whilst crying and I think it was tears because he didn't want to be saying these things to me but couldn't control himself. He then started talking about self harm and comiting suicide, I was beside myself with worry and didn't quite know where to turn, I opted to call social care and ask them for help for him, I explained everything to her and whe said.... Oh it sounds awful poor you, anyway its half past 5 and there is nobody in the office I will pass on the message tomorrow. I couldn't believe my ears, she gave me no advice and didn't suggest who to contact. I called the police, the doctors and others I could think of, by that time he had worked himself up into such a frenzy he was exhausted and fell asleep. I spoke to Bucks carers the next day who called social care for me and also his psychiatrist, who informed her that he was refered to tier 2 cams rather than tier 3 because he showed no signs of his autism effecting his mental health. Now I have told her about his suicidal thoughts and his anger and his meltdown and the fact that the following day after a meltdown he suffers with terrible stomache aches and headaches ect. Could you pass on your oppinions as to whether I should be pushing for him to be placed in teir 3 and actually recieve help or was she right to put him in tier 2, and what is the difference between the two. I feel like I am fighting a loosing battle and any and all advice would be very much appreciated xx ty

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  • I forgot to say my son was on riseridone too, but in the madness of this world, when he turned 18 he had to come of it as it wasn't licensed for adults  for that purpose. that's when he picked up the prozac - Fluoxetine.

    It was my son who asked me to apply for the DLAa. I didn't think we needed it , but it has made such a dfference to him. When things do wrong he doesn't have the guilt of the financial impact to deal with as well as his own feelings. Now we keep it separate I can see just how expensive he is to run!

    One nice thing we use it for is treats to get him out of the house and talking when he is depressed. Its funny what cheers him up - cooked breakfast at morrisons, muffin at M &S . It's hard when you have several children to get time with each of them. I'd suggest you try and get time with just him - the more you can keep communications open the better, but also if you can get 1-1 time with the others - even half an hour here and there it will help them too.

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  • I forgot to say my son was on riseridone too, but in the madness of this world, when he turned 18 he had to come of it as it wasn't licensed for adults  for that purpose. that's when he picked up the prozac - Fluoxetine.

    It was my son who asked me to apply for the DLAa. I didn't think we needed it , but it has made such a dfference to him. When things do wrong he doesn't have the guilt of the financial impact to deal with as well as his own feelings. Now we keep it separate I can see just how expensive he is to run!

    One nice thing we use it for is treats to get him out of the house and talking when he is depressed. Its funny what cheers him up - cooked breakfast at morrisons, muffin at M &S . It's hard when you have several children to get time with each of them. I'd suggest you try and get time with just him - the more you can keep communications open the better, but also if you can get 1-1 time with the others - even half an hour here and there it will help them too.

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