Bed wetting

 My son who is approaching 13,started secondary school this year and cutting a long story short is now been put forward to be assessed for autism.

My husband and I have felt he is on the spectrum from a very early age but have had barriers to get him assessed ,it’s now more obvious now he is approaching his teens and moving to a school more aware of the traits of autism he was quickly put forward to be assessed 

My concern at the moment is he is wetting the bed frequently,this has been an ongoing issue but we seemed to have a few months break from it.

It was bad when he started secondary school and settled after a couple of months and the times it’s happened in between has been when his anxiety is high.Now he is moving year groups and there is a lot of change I’m wondering if this is affecting him

Im feeling quite alone with it all as he is yet diagnosed and don’t want to attach everything to being on the spectrum so just thought I would ask if there is a possible link?

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  • Could well be stress related. My advice from personal experience when I was young, is not to make to much of a deal about it. This will probably cause even more stress and anxiety and exacerbate the situation. And, don't get one of those buzzer jobs that wakes you up in the night and traumatises you for life. I'll never forget that... If I could have spoken to my parents about it when I was young, I would have said "I can't help it, please don't make a fuss about it".

    School was a hellish time for me and there was a lot of stress and anxiety especially when you get to secondary school and there is more focus on the popular groups, acting tough and victimisation of those not fitting in, etc. Its a very cruel world for someone who doesn't fit in. I would suggest not focussing on the bed issues and focus on making him feel loved, try to focus life around positive things and things he enjoys, and if possible, although to be honest not very likely, try to get him to open up about what is on his mind, but again, keep things relaxed and don't make too much of a fuss about it, as this will make it even harder to talk and will increase anxiety.

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  • Could well be stress related. My advice from personal experience when I was young, is not to make to much of a deal about it. This will probably cause even more stress and anxiety and exacerbate the situation. And, don't get one of those buzzer jobs that wakes you up in the night and traumatises you for life. I'll never forget that... If I could have spoken to my parents about it when I was young, I would have said "I can't help it, please don't make a fuss about it".

    School was a hellish time for me and there was a lot of stress and anxiety especially when you get to secondary school and there is more focus on the popular groups, acting tough and victimisation of those not fitting in, etc. Its a very cruel world for someone who doesn't fit in. I would suggest not focussing on the bed issues and focus on making him feel loved, try to focus life around positive things and things he enjoys, and if possible, although to be honest not very likely, try to get him to open up about what is on his mind, but again, keep things relaxed and don't make too much of a fuss about it, as this will make it even harder to talk and will increase anxiety.

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