Since diagnosis in 2015, I've had no form of support or therapy. I didn't think there was much available to me, to be honest.
These few years, though, have given me much time to think things over about my life and get some perspective. Since my last relationship ended disastrously around the same time, too, I've tended to shut myself away from people more. I've also stopped seeking any form of romantic attachment. I realise that I struggle with these kinds of emotional extremes. It's all a huge deal at the start... and then it all goes flat. That's when people get hurt. Partly, I think I don't want to inflict that on anyone else any more.
Then there are the problems I had with bullying in my last job, and what I know seemed to my employers at the time as my extreme over-reaction to events. All of that came in the wake of my trying to come to terms with the loss of my mother - the only person whom I'd ever been able to go to in life. The only person who gave me unconditional love and support. It all took me to a very dark place, in which I felt like I was gradually losing my capacity to function as an emotional being in any sense.
That led me a couple of months ago to think seriously about getting some form of help. One day, I Googled 'counsellors and therapists in [my area]', and one of the results was a charity that - so I discovered - is based five minutes' walk from my front door! I contacted them and enquired if they had anyone who was trained and experienced in dealing with people with ASC. It didn't sound promising, but they took my details and said they'd get back to me. They informed me that all they wanted for a session was a minimum of a £5 donation (maximum £30 - whatever, basically, was affordable to the individual). This was good, as I was expecting a minimum of at least £60. Anyway... I left it with them and heard no more.
Until last Thursday. They rang up to say they had someone who was experienced with ASC, and they could fit me in for a session on this coming Monday evening if I still wanted it. It's a female counsellor, too, which I prefer. They said I could decide after the first session if I wanted to continue, and that there was no minimum or maximum number of sessions.
So... I'm going along on Monday, after work. I guess, once the formalities are out of the way, the big question will be 'What do you hope to gain from these counselling sessions?'
Well, where do I start? There's a lot to go through.
Hopefully, this can be a way forwards, though. I'll let you know how things go.
That sounds good Tom, I hope it goes well for you. Really good that you can see someone who is experienced in dealing with people with ASC too, it seems therapists who are knowledgeable about this are quite hard to find. I fear the person I've started to see isn't as clued up as I'd like, I didn't really ask about it when I started to see her as I was further away from a possible diagnosis than I am now, but I think I'm going to have to have a chat about it in my next session.
We should all get counseling. Even though it may be hard or delayed problems, we still need to talk.
The barrier is usually opening up to strangers, or even friends.
I got free bereavement counseling at my dad's hospice. St. Joseph hospice hackney.
It was worth it and would have paid.
You are doing the right thing.
Good luck although, as I have found, the stubborn "know it all" NT's are the problem in work who do not listen.
I hope there is some liaison between your counselling and OH (and maybe HR/Management) to help in work.
if you don't mind me asking, how did your counselling go?
I'm undiagnosed but not in a dissimilar place to you, my relationship is currently falling apart at least in part due to my difficulties with social interactions.
Counselling kind of scares me, it's quite an intense social situation but if the process gives me tools that help me deal with my social difficulties better than it's well worth doing.
May I say that counselling is good. For whatever reason. Having someone to talk to can make things feel in perspective and ultimately hopeful.
Even this forum is a type of counselling, talking to friends, or your spouse. it just so happens my second relationship is falling apart because of communication issues too. So there is no help there.
Counselling is great.
I have issues with social difficulties (face to face counselling) so I call 111 option 2. They are there to talk to/at 24hours a day for free.
It's important to find something that works for you though.
all the best.
Martian Tom said: It all took me to a very dark place, in which I felt like I was gradually losing my capacity to function as an emotional being in any sense.
Hi. I have a limited experience. Normally a good counsellor will help you to define the objectives, to explore the various issues you need to address.
I would have thought the above would be the focal point.
You need to regain your emotions and self love, to recover from the traumatic events in your life.
How did it go?