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Parents at diagnosis

mljt

I read on the NAS website that you need your parents to come to the appointment to talk about your childhood, or failing that, siblings. I have a very difficult relationship with my parents and don't see them much. I don't think they would be supportive of me seeking a diagnosis and my Mum in particular has a very warped and biased view of my childhood in relation to other things. I also don't speak to my brothers at all. I planned to take my partner but it said "if you take someone else with you, such as a partner, they will not play an active part in proceedings." 

I'm worried about having to convey it all on my own, but my parents can't be involved. What will happen? 

  • I'm in a similar position. My mum and dad give me a good upbringing but are ignorant to such things as autism (they wouldnt seek diagnosis themselves), my mum would be histerical and think id been abused. She wasnt amused when I got a dyslexia diagnosis.

    Sister is similar to parents, but not as bad. "Our family is PERFECT". Ok and I'm supposed to be the one with problemsCool

    I'm hoping they will listen to my partner or else I'm high and dry.

  • mljt said:

     but it said "if you take someone else with you, such as a partner, they will not play an active part in proceedings." 

    I played an active part in my partners diagnosis, I was asked to be there and help fill in the details of his life now, his mum was filling in his life when he was younger

    the details about your life now are important as the past ones, I'm not sure why it would say you can't take a partner when they would be the best one to know you now

    I think you should give someone a call about that, and see if its possible that it's a mistake or if its a rule applicable in certain areas of Britain

  • Thank you. I'll make sure my GP mentions it on the referral. 

  • From what i understand it IS possible for them to carry out an assessment without your parents/siblings. Maybe you could either phone ahead or explain when you arrive that it is not possible for you to take your parents. There are ways round it.