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Hi, we had an assessment for our 10 year old son yesterday and we were told he has ASD.  Not really sure how we are feeling - very mixed emotions at the moment.  Finally I feel that we have an answer however I am worried about the future.  Can anyone suggest how I tell our son that he has autism - he is only 10, don't think he would really understand.  I would be grateful for any advice.

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  • Knittermum said:

    The thing that concerns me about telling him that he has a diagnosis is that he overheard a conversation about him possibly having autism a while ago, and suddenly that was his excuse for behaving badly at school - "it's not my fault, it's my autism".  Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this?

    Firstly you need to be sure what is, and is not, a product of his autism.

    A lot of behaviour, that to NTs may seem like just 'bad behaviour', displayed by those on the spectrum, is a product of the stress that having autism causes, so whilst it may not be a direct symptom, it can be a by-product, and is often not something the person with autism can easily control.

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  • Knittermum said:

    The thing that concerns me about telling him that he has a diagnosis is that he overheard a conversation about him possibly having autism a while ago, and suddenly that was his excuse for behaving badly at school - "it's not my fault, it's my autism".  Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this?

    Firstly you need to be sure what is, and is not, a product of his autism.

    A lot of behaviour, that to NTs may seem like just 'bad behaviour', displayed by those on the spectrum, is a product of the stress that having autism causes, so whilst it may not be a direct symptom, it can be a by-product, and is often not something the person with autism can easily control.

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